Questions on Male Sexual Thoughts, Activities, and Practices - Page 9

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NAME:   (Anonymous)
531 Q:   I masterbate everyday, but when a girl gives me oral sex, I do not ejaculate. Is this because I masterbate often? Or is she just not doing it right? I've heard that too much masterbation causes a person to not come when having oral sex.
A: Frequent masturbation can delay orgasm during sex. Many people do not see this as a bad thing. However, if you can never ejaculate during sex, I can see how it is troublesome. The only way to answer your own question is to try to masturbate less and see what happens.
-- P.S. There is no such thing as her "not doing it right". Sexual methods are very individualized and should be perfected on behalf of both partners in long-term relationships. It always takes patience, understanding, and communication with the other person.

NAME:   Deric
532 Q:   Me and my friend masturbated together a while ago. I want to ask him to do it again but I'm not sure what the reaction will be. Can you give me some advice?
A: You already did it once. How bad could his reaction be? Maybe you are hesitant because you are not sure if you really want to do it again, or you are afraid it may lead to something more than masturbation.

NAME:   (Anonymous)
533 Q:   To loose your virginity do you have to stick your penis in her vagina or what do you have to do?
A: Virginity seems to be defined as being in the opinion of the holder these days. Masturbation does not cause loss of virginity, but some say oral sex does cause loss of virginity and others say it does not. I think losing virginity occurs whenever you feel you have completed the act of "sex" (but this is debatable by others). Virginity is also a cultural-specific term, which means the definition will vary from culture to culture.
534 FOLLOW-UP Q:   What does "pulling out" mean for a girl?
A: "Pulling out" usually means to pull the penis out of the vagina before the man ejaculates to prevent a possible pregnancy. If you had sex and she pulled out the penis before ejaculation, it is questionable whether you or her lost virginity. It is kind of in limbo, but I think it is definitely more lost was before. Personally, I'm leaning more towards lost virginity if I had to choose.

NAME:   Puzzled Girlfriend
535 Q:   My new boyfriend is a sweet, mild-mannered, soft-spoken guy who is tender and generous in bed, but suddenly screams dirty words at me when he comes. I am not too worried about being called a _____, but I had never been with a man who did this and I would like someone to explain this behaviour to me!
A: It's like when someone wins the lottery, it is a good thing, and they are excited... but many people yell obscenities also under these circumstances. If it really bothers you, you should tell him. Maybe you can suggest he just yell out loud, but not yell words.

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NAME:   Rachel
536 Q:   Last night my boyfriend watched me masterbate on the web cam and I watched him. He ejaculated while watching me, but never ejaculates when I perform sexual favors on him. What could be the problem?
A: You need to gradually have him include you in on his masturbation sessions in person. You have to gradually train one another as stated above. (Click on the "above" word -- it's a link.) There is really no quick-fix for this problem. It may take months or years. However, if you love the person, it will happen when the time is right.


NAME:   chooo
537 Q:   Hello, I am 25 years old. I masturbate once a week? I have never done sex. My problem is that I ejaculate very fast, faster than premature ejaculation I believe? Even when I kiss my girlfriend or she hugs me, I come? I am worried about this.
A: You might need more than a once per week release. Also, generally, the longer you are in a relationship, the less sensitive you will be to orgasming prematurely. Some men are just overly sensitive (especially in the beginning of a relationship). However, there is an actual medical condition known as premature ejaculation which has several different remedies as stated throughout this site.

NAME:   HotBod
538 Q:   I am 16 and I have a bother who's 15. I ask him to suck my penis, but he said "no". But I know he's gay... because he is always saying the words 'dick' or 'penis' to me.
A: Having sex with your brother is absolutely a bad idea. On top of that, if he doesn't want to give you oral sex, you must respect him and his answer of "no". Plus, you really have no idea if your brother is gay or not regardless of what he says or what you might think he is.

NAME:   (Anonymous)
539 Q:   When I have sex with my girlfriend, it takes me a long time to finish. What is my problem? She gets tired too early and I cannot finish.
A: I would recommend more foreplay with specific stimulation to your penis and whatever else you find arousing immediately prior to actually having sexual intercourse. It doesn't usually make the partner tired, especially if it is a woman.


NAME:   Sexualguy
540 Q:   I wore a condom with my girlfriend, but it came off. She ended her period 3 days before we had sex and I'm worried she might be pregnant.
A: She probably won't be pregnant, especially if the condom came off after ejaculation (usually). However, there is a very small chance that she might be pregnant. It is a good idea to buy condoms that contain a spremicidal additive to lessen the chances of pregnancy if the condom does come off (It will say on the package). Nevertheless, no birth control method is 100% effective, with the exception of abstinence.

NAME:   Girl
541 Q:   Is it possible to get pregnant if you ended your period three days before having sex?
A: Unfortunately, there is a remote possibility because sperm can live inside the woman for a number of days. However, the chances are very slim.

NAME:   (Anonymous)
542 Q:   I masturbate with my PE coach. Is that illegal.
A: I don't think it is illegal for you. However, if you are a minor, it could be illegal for your coach to be encouraging you to engage in sexual behaviors if he is an adult. It's probably not a good idea for you to continue doing it with your PE coach.

NAME:   Sshoesss
543 Q:   I am 25 years old and still a virgin is this a bad thing and can you give me some advise on this please.
A:  It is neither good nor bad.  But personally, I think it is a bad idea to have sex with someone just to get rid of virginity.

NAME:   Jack B.
544 Q:   I always find pleasure in pinching my own nipples during masterbation. Is it normal for men to pinch their own nipples during masterbation or sex.
A: Yes, it can be perfectly normal. In fact, during sex, it can be a very important part of foreplay for many men and women.

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NAME:   Jay
545 Q:   I'm confused. How long should a man last during sex, and how short of a duration qualifies as premature ejaculation? Looking at past questions posted, one response said that most men ejaculate in five minutes or less, while another response said they probably do not have a problem with premature ejaculation since he has lasted longer than five minutes in the past (45 min. for his first sexual experience), despite the fact that he was ejaculating in five minutes in all subsequent sexual encounters. If the first response is accurate (that 5 min. or less is average), then the second guy should've been told that he was perfectly normal.
A: I reworded the response you are quoting so it makes more sense. It was originally answered the way it was because I was assuming there was distress in the relationship over the typical average male orgasm time versus the typical female orgasm time. Nevertheless, nobody cannot pinpoint the amount of time a man should last to the very second. Premature ejaculation is when a person comes to a sexual climax prematurely in such a way that it is unexpected and unsatisfying. All men can have premature ejaculations once in a while (and under certain circumstances), but it is not a problem unless it is a persistent let-down over time. Also, a man's masturbation orgasms are usually achieved much more quickly than a sexual intercourse orgasm. For most women, it is not going to be acceptable for a man to slide his penis back and forth inside her vagina for five minutes and then be done with her -- even though the average male can orgasm in about five minutes.

NAME:   (Anonymous)
546 Q:   My penis is long enough for me to suck it. My problem is I'm not sure if its healthy to suck yourself off. Is this something that wouldn't be wrong to practice?
A: You will have to decide if it is wrong or not. It is unusual to be able to do this because you have to have a long enough penis and be flexible enough to reach it. Therefore, there are only a handful of people in your position. Very little is written on the etiquette of autofellatio.

NAME:   (Anonymous)
547 Q:   What is a MILF?
A: Simply put, a MILF is a gorgeous older woman. More specifically, MILF is a slang acronym for "Mother I'd Like to F**k". Typically, it's used to describe women in their 30's or 40's that look "good enough to have sex with". Most MILFs fit a profile that includes a physically fit body and an enthusiasm for sex.

NAME:   horny
548 Q:   I became very attracted to my dog. But I'm afraid my dog might bite me during intercourse, so I just masturbate while I touch and hug him. When I was 10yrs old, my uncle took me to his ranch. I had fantasies of sexual intercourse with the cattle, but I was never as aroused as I am with my german shepard, do I have a sick mind?, if I do, is there any way I can change?
A: Animals cannot provide consent to sex, so is much like sexual abuse or rape. You're right, the dog might bite you or scratch you. I would advise bestiality against intercourse with pets. If you want to change, you may want to seek a good psychotherapist or a counselor. It is possible to change but the desire to do so must be strong. Masturbating with the dog is not going to help you get over this.

NAME:   (Anonymous)
549 Q:   I'm 18 and my girlfriend is almost 16. Would she be considered too young to have sex? If so, why is it so hard to resist the urge?
A: (1) Legally speaking, that question really depends on the country and state you live in, the legal jurisdiction, and her parent's attitude about it. I do know age 16 is near the borderline of the age of sexual consent in many places. Often, a court will take into consideration how much older the adult is. For example, they may say that someone who is 18 that has sex with a 16 year old is not breaking the law, but someone who is 24 that has sex with a 16 year old is breaking the law. (2) Morally speaking, the answer depends on how much you love each other and how ready each of you is. I find that if you are questioning whether or not you should have sex, it is best to wait. This way, you are certain to avoid regret.

NAME:   Rear ended
550 Q:   Why do men find anal sex so appealing?
A: In reality, many do not prefer anal sex. Even among homosexual males, only about 60% find anal sex pleasurable. For those men that do like anal sex, the reasons for them liking it are very numerous, personal, and probably unique to each man.

NAME:   (Anonymous)
551 Q:   What is an orgasm?
A: An orgasm is the climax that can occur during sexual activity. Many people say that the orgasm is the most pleasurable and fulfilling part of sex. Not all sexual activity leads to orgasm and not all people think the orgasm is the best part of sex.

NAME:   (Anonymous)
552  Q:   It takes quite a while for me to ejaculate when my girlfriend's giving me a hand job, jet oral always works. What would make oral sex more appealing for women?
A: Jet oral? I don't know what that is. However, many women would find oral sex more appealing if the same amount of effort was given back to them in return. But it all depends on the woman. I guess you will have to ask her.

NAME:   B
553 Q:   When I have sex with my partner, it seems to take me longer to orgasm than he. I masturbate 2 or 3 times a day. Is that my problem?
A: Masturbation 2 or 3 times per day can cause you to take longer to orgasm.

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NAME:   (Anonymous)
554 Q:   I am 18 and still a virgin (due to religious reasons), but my girlfriend and I have oral sex. It doesn't work for me.I never cum when receiving it. Also, I never cum when my girlfriend uses her hand on me. When I masterbate, I cum every time, but never when someone else is doing it to me. It has been the same with my past girlfriends too. I masterbate roughly three times a week, but I used to do it every night. Is there something I can do or stop doing to make me ejaculate when receiving either hand or oral sex.
A: You can start by trying to masturbate yourself with her next to you so she can be involved in the process. She needs to see how you do it. At first, only have her stimulate you at the end -- right before you orgasm. Do not be surprised if you have to take over again, but before you orgasm, include her in on the process once again. If she agrees to it, you can let her give oral sex after you have masturbated yourself for a while. The key is to mix your own masturbation with your partner's touch. From there, you can have her do more and more little by little. It takes time to be able to work out a process so be patient. Afterwards, be sure to return the same amount of affection to her to keep the sex from becoming one-sided.

NAME:   (Anonymous)
555 Q:   I've been having problems ejaculating during intercourse, but when I masturbate, all is fine. I have been told that my problems during sex are due to the fact that I have gotten myself used to my own hand and nothing else can please me as well. Is this a possibility? If so, what can I do to reverse the problem?
A: You are somewhat correct in your explanation (the one you have been told). This issue is a problem for a significant number of men. However, you are incorrect in thinking that you have to "reverse" the problem. What you need to do is gradually learn a new way of pleasuring yourself and a partner. If you can get past the anxiety of this situation, you can actually have a very neat / fun learning experience once you let yourself relax and experiment with her. The masturbation methods can feel very different from sexual contact. I always advise a person to first include your partner in on your masturbation sessions. You don't have to quit masturbating, but try not to do it by yourself for a while. If you have an understanding partner, she will work with you on this issue. Masturbate with her at first while you gradually let her work on you a little bit with her hand. Be sure the actions are mutual and the session is not all about "you". Experiment with masturbating her body too. You can gradually move on to other sexual behaviors such as oral sex and intercourse, but you may have to start out by masturbating during each session for some time. When you were younger, it took a while to get used to your own body when you first started masturbating. As time went on, you could begin to predict when an ejaculation was coming. The same learning process has to happen now. It will help a lot to have a loving and caring partner. I'm not sure what your situation is with your partner. But if you are just interested in casual sex, she may not have the patience to help you learn. (See related answer about oral sex above.)

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