NAME: natedogg 511 Q: How long does it normally take
a male to cum when masterbating? Also, how long is it supposed to take male
to cum when having intercourse with a female? A: I can not dictate exact numbers when it comes to length of time
is "should" take. However, the average time it takes a man to ejaculate during
masturbation is about five minutes. Unfortunately, for the woman, this can
be disappointing during sex because it typically takes a woman 10-15 minutes
(or more) to achieve an orgasm. This puts the male and female couple in a
position of compromise during the practice of sexual activities. (Yes! Good
sex does require practice and experimentation on behalf of
both partners.) The couple can engage in sexual foreplay that will enable
the female to achieve orgasm faster, and the male can engage in concentration
techniques during sex such as
stop-and-go techniques
during sex and his own masturbation sessions to practice lengthening the
period of time before he orgasms. Compromise, communication, experimentation,
and practice are all important virtues when it comes to sex that satisfies
both the male and female partner. NAME: mR.T-ECNO 512 Q: I'm 16, but I have a problem.
It seems every time a guy gets out of his seat in school, I feel like I freeze
up because people might think I'm looking at his butt. A guy could be sitting
in front of me or walking down the isle in the class. I just don't know what
to do when this happens. I try to look forward and continue to do my schoolwork,
but it seems someone is always staring at me like I'm gay because could happen
to see the guys' butts when they get up. A: Your question is a bit vague. I'm not sure if you are saying you
have a desire or curiosity of looking at a guy's butt. Nevertheless, it seems
you are somewhat paranoid in that you feel all eyes are on you when a guy
gets up in class. It is true that one or two people may be looking in your
direction, but there is no real way people can tell for sure if you are looking
at the guy's butt, or his shirt, or his pants, or his belt, etc. They also
can't tell what you are thinking if you do look at him. I might suggest that
if you are distracted by guys getting up, and you happen to look at them,
maybe you could direct your eyes toward the back of his hair or else down
at his shoes rather than his mid-section (butt). NAME: (Anonymous) 513 Q: I am 13 years old and I'm pretty
sure that I'm strait, because I am easily aroused by women. I have entered
puberty early, and I'm at the sexual stage an adult would be in. I have this
really close male friend that I fantasize about making out with and giving
oral sex to. He's not a very attractive man, but he's the only one I'm attracted
to. Should I act on these feelings and experiment with him? A: I don't think you should act on these feelings at this time. The
fact that you are asking about it proves that you have some internal doubt
about actually putting yourself in a sexual position with your friend. Many
males have the types of thoughts or fantasies you described. Many men also
choose not to act on these thoughts because they aren't really comfortable
with the idea of doing it in real life. Don't rush into anything. You have
the rest of your life to make sexual decisions. NAME: (Anonymous) 514 Q: I read about the stop-and-go method
for masturbation. Does this mean that you stop in the middle of actual
intercourse as well as masturbation if it's necessary to keep you from
ejaculating too soon? I've also noticed that sometimes changing positions
during sex can prolong the experience because different positions feel different,
or even the man may need to pull out temporarily to reposition. A: Yes, you are correct in those statements. However, stopping in
the middle of sexual intercourse will require an understanding on behalf
of your partner. Adequate and honest communication with your partner prior
to sex will be necessary. NAME: (Anonymous) 515 Q: In the last month, maybe one of
4 or 5 of my sessions has been interrupted by excruciating head-aches. At
first, they would start while I was masturbating, but now it's usually after
I ejaculate. They were so severe I would find myself having to stop and cry
out in pain. They usually center themselves on the back of my upper neck
and the center to bottom of the back of my head. I don't know if it makes
a difference, But I started anal stimulation at the same time. I'm pretty
sure this isn't normal, and I'm extremely concerned. A: You may be experiencing migraine headaches that are stimulated
from the excitation of your central nervous system from the sexual arousal.
If this is the case, you can ask a doctor about medications for your painful
headaches. But I must also suggest that you keep track of the position you
are in when you are masturbating. Try changing the position(s) to relieve
tension on the back and neck muscles. For example, if you do it laying down,
try sitting up. But if you do it sitting up now, try laying down. Sometimes
the muscle strain from the position of sexual activity can cause all sorts
of aches and pains. Anal stimulation is probably not the cause of the increase
in your symptoms in and of itself. However, to engage in anal stimulation,
you must stretch the shoulder muscles to reach behind yourself. These muscles
can cause the back and neck to tense up abnormally. I'm not sure how long
it takes you to masturbate, but if you are spending hours doing it each day,
it can be causing these problems.If the pain continues after trying these
suggestions, you may have to see a doctor about the problem. Doctors know
guys masturbate, so there is nothing to be ashamed of if you feel you must
reveal these details to a physician. NAME: Mr. English 516 Q: I have not been to the doctor
yet, but I met a girl recently that fancies me. I have not started puberty
at all yet, even though I am 15. I had to turn her down because she wanted
more than a hug and a kiss. I'm afraid that if I went out with her and we
did get physically intimate, she would dump me and tell all our friends about
us. What sort of treatments can a doctor give me to help me start to grow
down there? A: What a doctor can do for you all depends on your test results.
15 is a borderline age for developmental concern. Technically, it would be
within normal range if you started puberty soon. On the other hand, if you
do not see growth within the next year (or by age 16), you should start thinking
about seeing a doctor. But honestly, there really is no urgent physiological
hurry, even though it seems like it because you started dating girls. Just
keep in mind that there are treatments available for those young men who
legitimately have a developmental problem. You won't have this problem forever.
Hormone treatments such as pills or stick-on patches are often a common treatment
for low testosterone levels, but I have no idea if low testosterone is your
actual problem. This is only a website. Sorry I can't help more.
NAME: Robert - 3 same ISP as above 66.20.101.223 517 Q: I am a 22 year old college student,
and I recently went to a wild fraternity party. There was one hot girl who
was really drunk on a bed. My buddy stripped off and started to have sex
with her. As I watched, I started getting really aroused, so I lay down and
let her suck my penis while my buddy had sex with her in the doggie-style
position. Before long, he ejaculated, so I took his place and had sex with
her in the missionary position. The whole fraternity cheered me on, and by
this time I was so aroused nothing could stop me. Finally, I ejaculated and
my orgasm was so great I groaned out loud. Is it often that guys get more
turned on when other guys see them having sex with a hot girl? A: I don't know. To be honest with you, the idea of it does not turn
me on. It sounds like you may have been having sex in the wrong place and
for the wrong reasons.
NAME: Dez 518 Q: I am 23, and I my girlfriend loves
it when I ejaculate in her mouth (believe me, so do I) she even swallows
all my sperm. When I'm alone and masturbating I have the urge to eat my own
sperm? Is this common? Have you ever tasted yours, and what does it taste
like? My girlfriend says mine tastes good. A: Most guys who masturbate regularly have tasted their own
semen at some point. Some do it regularly. It is safe to eat your own semen.
Probably more people do it than actually admit to doing it. I've tasted mine,
and I did not like the fact that it was warm. Semen usually tastes salty
like ocean water. NAME: Richard L. 519 Q: Last night, I had sex with a hot
girl in my bunk. We started off with me getting fellatio, then she rode me
for a while. Then, I got on top and thrusted hard until I had a powerful
orgasm. She said I must have ejaculated a gallon of semen. But she noticed
that my toes twitched and curled, although I don't remember this obviously,
so it must have been involuntarily. Is it normal for guys to twitch their
toes when they have an orgasm? A: It's normal to have all sorts of involuntary reactions from orgasms.
The legs and toes can do any number of strange things. Sometimes you can
even get a cramp in the leg ("charlie horse") from an orgasm.