Survey - What do you think is the cause of sexual preference / orientation?
Do you think it is possible to change it?

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SEXUALITY: Other
GENDER: Female
TITLE: Transwoman

I thought I might throw the cat amongst the pigeons here. 10 years ago I was a male (just) and married. I have now lived in the female role for 10 yrs and had the operation 6 years ago. I have only been with men since changing over. So I know a bit about this.-----So why did I only go with women before changing over? Fear. I had a homophobic family and so was almost everyone around me when I was young. I was crucified in high school (for obvious reasons) and then decided I had to try to be tough. Even though everyone thought I was a joke for trying to be a "regular guy" I never stopped trying and eventually got married.-----

This isn't the point of my piece here but it does show that pressure society places on queer people really messes people around - including innocent bystanders like my ex partner.-----

In the end I started going crazy because I'd been basically acting for two decades and the marriage fell over.-----When I first changed over I had never been with a guy and wasn't sure which way I would go. At first I thought I might try being "lesbian" because I was still afraid. Anyway, one of my old mates seduced me one night - lol - after I changed roles (yes, I scrub up pretty well); I think we were both curious, and I enjoyed it a lot. Since then I have enjoyed four serious and serious-ish relationships with men. As the song goes - I enjoy being a girl!-----

Yet, in my old life I had sometimes enjoyed sex with my former spouse altho I was a bit on the impotent side and often avoided sex. So I'm bisexual? Technically yes, but I see myself as a straight woman. Some might call this denial, and I am quite aware of chomosomes etc, but I mean "woman" as in "woman for all practical means and purposes".-----

So my experience would support the doctor's posting above, about each of us having varying degrees of hetero and homo sexuality. I completely agree with him that sexuality is a continuum. Really, it shouldn't matter that much because we're all just humans, and humans are often pretty nice, regardless of gender. -----

The only reason I have not tried woman-to-woman sex since changing over because never make the first move because I'd feel like I was being presumptious or invading someone else's space, so I only get in relationships if a man I like makes his feelings known to me. However, if I was single and the right kind of woman approached me, I'd probably give it a try and may well enjoy it since I wouldn't have to do that guy thing which I always felt weird doing. But I could not see myself having an actual relationship with a woman these days. Do I really need another complex and neurotic woman to deal with? lol. Guys are much easier to be serious with (and silly with) and I supply enough complexity and neurosis for one relationship!-----

Could I have just been a girly gay guy in my old life if I hadn't been so homophobic? Sure I would, but I think there still would have been continuing problems socially for me trying to find a male niche in life where I was really accepted for who I was.-----

I think the main point that comes from all this is that we have one sexual orientation which we feel with, and another that we assert as our public face. Usually these coincide but not always, due to social factors and experiences we have. We often see our sexuality as our identity, and this locks us into our positions. However, this can change later in life as it becomes more important to us to be ourselves than to shape our lives so as to please everyone else.-----

Sorry I rabbited on so long ... oh, and in answer to the inevitable question, yes, I can and do have organsms post-operatively ...

SEXUALITY:
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Tyler

I don't know the answers to all these questions. I do know that from 10 to 25 I was heavy into guys. I was raised on a large ranch and I would have mutual jack off and suck offs with the ranch hands, so many guys I can't remember them all. And most were married. I was an athletic goodlookin kid and had all thecock I wanted. In school I was an outstanding athlete and I had a lot of willing jack/suck off buds. When in the Navy I boxed and never lacked for dick 'cause the guys wanted to be around a good boxer and they wanted my dick, and they got it, and I got theirs. But I fell in love with my wife at 25 and never looked back.

SEXUALITY: Other
GENDER: Male
TITLE: WiseOne

I think humans are all horny in general, and these steroetypes have got to go. what is straight or gay? if a married man with kids has sex with a guy on the side quietly is he still straight? no but he can't be gay cause he's married right! My point is that you can swing both ways or go just one way but who ever your with make sure you really love that person and your with them for more then just sexual reasons. And I don't like the idea of the gay flag, it's seperates us, then we should make a straight flag and a bi flag? give me a break!!! everyone should just have sex with who ever they want and don't ask somoene about there sexual orientation unless you want to have sex with them, if you don't then mind your business! and don't let society or anyone define you, if you want to be in the "closet" then do so, when any two people are togther sexual that should just be between you and the other person!

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER: Male
TITLE: BionicJoey

I think my sexual "preference" or "orientation" has been in me from the time I was born. Certainly I didn't know about "sex" when I was a child. But as I grew, I always felt "different" in ways.--Growing into adult-hood, my feelings and attractions made me uncomfortable and ashamed. I never dated during my teenage years and did not have sex until I was 22 years old. That was with a woman. I've been with three women in my life (I'm 41 now.) I nearly married a woman in the late 1980s...but this was me trying to fit it, be what everyone thought I should be, not embarrass my family and friends, and myself. However, deep down (I was still in deep denial myself), I knew it would be wrong to marry her...unfair to her and me.--I spent the next ten years alone; no dating, no intamacy, no sex.--During those years, I slowing began accepting who I am; being honest with myself that looking at nude men wasn't me "just seeing how I compare"; but resigning to myself my attraction.--I don't know if everyone's sexual preference is caused by the same things. Everyone deals with different experiences in his or her own way.--As for changing someone else's sexual preference, why would someone want to change another person? Personally, I accept everyone for who they are. As for someone changing my sexual orientation, I am who I am; I am what I am. I make no apologies or excuses...anymore.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Jim

I dont no what it comes from can someone help me? I am really attracted to my mom. Whenever I walk around the house I get an erection when I see her. I jerk off into her panties and bras. The other day she had her hand on my leg and I jizzed all in my pants! Someone help me! Also, she bumped into my hard on the other day and just smiled. Im going crazy

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Herman

I KNOW my sexual preference is for boys because my first friends were naturally boys because they liked the same things that I did as I was Growing up. We loved playing ball, fishing, camping out, even sometimes getting in trouble with the law by mostly doing childhood pranks and the like, mostly to show each other how tough we were. We were a gang and stuck together threw thick and thin. It was only natural for us to love each other and to see to it that ALL of our emotions were not only met, but satistied.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Female
TITLE: Jen

As a very active girl in school I had older guys comming on to me as early 5th grade. I come from a very open minded family and that included sex. At a girlfriends sleep over I had my first encounter with another female. We fooled around kissing and fondling and eventually we got into some heavey oral sex. I really enjoyed it allot. As a cheerleader I met allot of guys and was very sexualy active with the guys in school. I also had a secret affair with a few girlfriends at out little sleepovers. At a party my boyfriend was watching a porno with the guys and they were showing a lesbian scene and all the guys were excited. So Leslie and I said do you really like that so much ? So we started kissing and making out and eating each other while the guys went bannanas. Leslie and I were soon known around the school as the lesbos. We both had boyfriends and we were STAR softball and volleyball players. In college we still see each other and we both have boyfriends. I always wonder if my family was not as open about sex if I would different outlooks as far as samesex and bi-sexuals. Once I was "outed" so to speak I met allot of other girls that were so alone and so screwed up because they were so afraid because of what other people would think. Some of them were outcast by their familys and friends and that was just the girls. The guys really had it bad. There were a few guys on the football team and allot on the baseball team that were bi or gay. And they had to hide it. When is the last time you saw an openly gay or bi baseball or football player in high school get a full ride scholarship to a DIV 1 University !! So I think we learn to hide allot about our sexuality as kids and it shapes our adulthood for awhile. But as we age I think we become more open.

SEXUALITY: Other
GENDER: Male
TITLE: the_cinnamon_spider

when I was about 8 or 9 my mother told me about sexuality, and that there was nothing wrong with what I was, it was just who I am. with that instilled, and then when I hit my teens, I was way confused, thinking I was gay but denying it, then I befriended a lesbian and a bi guy, and I grew to accept who I was. now nearly out of my angst years, and after a bad experience, i'm yet again confused as to what my preference is. --- I don't believe everyone's sexual preference is caused by the same things; my uncle is gay, my mother believes it to be because my grandmother treated him like a daughter and my grandfather was a bitter man. the gay friends I have said that they just -were- gay. --- I don't believe you can change one's sexual preference, but you can deny it/cover it up.

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