Survey - What do you think is the cause of sexual preference / orientation?
Do you think it is possible to change it?

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SEXUALITY: In-Between
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Giani Jackman

Who can say really? I remember being as young as in the first grade and enjoying being with my buddies and wanting to see them naked. I really enjoyed playing "doctor" with them and also with a few gal pals too. How did I know at that tender age when I had to exposure to sex (very Catholic household at that time)? Even to this day, I'm sexually ambiguous. Not that I'm attracted to men, because I'm not... I'm sexually attracted to women, but I'm also psychologically attracted to certain personality types and found that my closest male friends have exhibited these... and at times that has lead to fulfilling sexual happenings with them too.... so who really knows?

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: bullwinkle

Your orientation or even peference can come from many different influences. However, I know that men and woman are designed to be attracted by the opposite sex. We need to be to reproduce. man:man or even woman:woman sexual activities go against that design. Society has no right to try and change that design and intention for man and woman to be together sexually. You man decide to go against that design, but nothing is preprogrammed into you to say that you are either attracted to the same sex. Or even that you should have been the opposite sex. You were born/designed to be compatible with the opposite sex only. Anything else is a deviation from that design. And with that deviation comes consequences which impact your mental, physical and spiritual self.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: joebowl

It depends, but I think my sexual preference developed through different things that happened through childhood,the friends you have along the way and any early sexual contact you might experience with either gender.Anyone can change,but you need to be able to live with yourself making that decision.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Redneck

I truly believe after finding out my brother and a few friends were gay that it is not a choice, so I guess genetic. However, I have played with another guy when I was young and felt tremendous positive energy from it. It was not, however -love-. So I guess genetics for loving interest and circumstance, exposure and acceptance for sex.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Early Memories

I never remember being attracted to females. From as early as I can remember, I was fascinated with the boys in high school and the young men at a college near where I lived. My fascination with the male body did not change as I went through grade school, high school, and college. I have never wanted to see a naked female, but I enjoy seeing a naked male. However, I have never been temped to touch.

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Tat2me

So far, as I read these, "Redneck" was the most realistic. Your sexuality is based on 3 points: your emotional attraction, physical attraction , and how you view yourself . While you may DECIDE which sex you choose to pursue, you do not "decide" which individuals will cause your sexual response to spark up. Bisexuals have done MUCH to confuse this whole issue by not understanding their own reactions, or their own diverse sexualities. Sexuality is not some box you climb into that rigidly defines your sexual aspect, but is instead as diverse as individuals themselves. Once the stigma attached to the gay, straight, bi labels are done away with, this should become very apparent. -As a trucker, I find fellow drivers (as well as other men) confuse the issue more by claiming that receiving sexual favors from another male still makes you straight, and that as long as you don't DO anything back, your straightness is intact. Sexuality is about what you FEEL and what you DESIRE...about sexual RESPONSE, however, and not about what you DO. If you are a married male with 3 kids, but sometimes fantasize about performing oral sex on some guy, then whether you actually do it or not, you have bisexual tendencies. Reality isn't about what we DECIDE it to be, but something we one day wake up to realize.

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER:
TITLE: ricky

I believe that sexuality is 95% genetic and 5% environment. I felt attracted to other boys from the age of about 7, and engaged in mutual masturbation at that time and fellatio beginning at puberty and lasting all my life, although rarely as I aged. I also enjoyed intercourse and cunnilingus and enjoy the youthful female body to this day (I'm 80). So I think I am truly bi-sexual, attracted to and enjoying both sexes. But neither is available to me any more, sad to say. So I'm a lone jerker-off now.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Anonymous

I believe that a man was created for a woman, and a woman was created for a man. Anything besides that is againts what God created us to do. But that dosn't mean people won't do what is againts God's will, for thier own pleasure, and they have the right to do so. Ever sense the fall in Eden, man's nature was to turn away from God. God gave us choise. It's up to us to make the right ones. PS This is my personal opinion, I do not mean to offend anyone.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: 40+

It is hard to say for sure what causes sexual preference, maybe it is how the person was or was not treated by a certain person, parent, or friend. I suppose they just have a special connect, a understanding, a desire to be with their partner. I do not believe everyone's sexual preference is caused by the same things if it was then how in a set of identical twins raised together having almost everything alike could one be straight and one not. If people desire one another because they each have qualities that the other is looking for, then the desire to be together will decide their sexual preference.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Anonymous

I read bullwinkle's response and agree absolutely with my mind. However, my body doesn't agree. I've been married 22 years and still struggle with curiosities of wanting to watch other men masturbate and masturbate with them, and I have fantasies of doing various sex acts with men having certain physical characteristics. I have not had any such interactions with men, but curiousity got me looking on the internet and coming to sites like this, and it has fed those fantasies. I had innocent "sexual" experiences with my male cousins at a young age, and I have masturbated frequently since then. I sometimes wonder if these experiences have undone my innate programming. At the same time, I'm happily married with 2 kids and fiercely hold to that relationship. Life's experiences, upbringing and our choices certainly play into our lusts and orientation. But as much as we are designed for the opposite sex, I also believe that there is some genetic predisposition involved, as with all sin.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Blur

Personal Experience at a young age and some kind of genetic predisposition seems extrmemely likely to me. From the conservatives who say its against God and deviation... I don't believe in the word of the christian God personally (I'm far more Buddhist) but it seems to me that the word of God (the Bible) has changed far too much throughout history to be considered a realistic representation of God's will.

SEXUALITY: Homosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Motorsport

Based on my experience, sexual preference is genetic. While I did have girlfriends at a certain point, my instinct always told me that I felt more attracted to men. I find women attractive but my sexual preference is men. In my opinion sexual preference is a factor such as your eye color or height....you cannot control it. I do not view sexaulity from a religious perspective. Ultimately, sexuality and sexual preference is very simple, yet society makes such a big deal over it. I do not beleive that someone can change their own or someone else's sexuality. The bottom line: sex is such a powerful force, let's all just accept it and stop worrrying about what is right and wrong and enjoy the gift of sex and human contact!

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Mike

I pretty much agree with what Tat2me wrote. Before puberty and the inevitable discovery of masturbation, I had "crushes" on girls that seemed pretty important to me, at the time. But when puberty hit, my whole perspective changed. With my new sexual feelings, boys were my only interest- for both sex and intimate/ romantic feelings. Freedom of choice might dictate what kind of sexual arrangements you feel comfortable in pursuing. But choice has nothing to do with what gets you aroused. Choice just isn't a function of passion- whether you enjoy red grapes more than green ones, or you find more excitement in riding a motorcycle (me), than playing golf (my best friend). -------

I was very fortunate to grow up with parents and friends who accepted my sexual preference. Unfortunately, that isn't the case for many young people. Fully one-third of all adolescent suicides in the U.S. involve an individual driven to ultimate desperation by others' cruel intolerance of their sexual identity. Choice? Yeah, right. Just like you'd choose running barefoot down a street of broken glass over running down a sandy beach. -------

Another thing, I am so tired of witnessing the ignorance of people who claim they own the exclusive rights to God. I'm not a religious person, but I do have a close relationship with God, and God has helped me thru some rough times. Quoting bible passages, and grinding that "family values" ax will never change the fact that I know God loves me for what I am, and just as I am.

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Bryan

To be honest, when people ask me these questions (being gay, you get alot of them), I don't know what to tell them. I don't know what makes me attracted to guys and not girls like most of the people I know. I think it is just a natural thing. I do not find the female body sexually arousing at all, but my best friend loves to get off on hetero porn and things. Since I was young, I've always been better friends with girls than guys, and had more of them. I was always hanging out with girls, but not for the same reasons other guys were hangin with them. Actually, until I got into high school, I never even had a sexual thought about a girl. Then when I did, I didn't like it. It just made me so uncomfortable. I started checking out guys on the web, just for fun, and I was really turned on. Throughout my high school years, I mostly played it straight. It's not real popular to be gay where I live. I've had a few girlfriends, we kissed and stuff, but I've never had any type of sexual experience with a girl, nor would I want to. I've tried things with guys tho, ad I just know that that's what my preference is. I honestly tried hard to be straight, but it became apparent to me that I'm just not. Now that I'm out, it's ok. Most people accept it. You'd be surprised how many people were like "Oh, I could tell," it's funny. ---So, to answer the question, no, from my experience, one doesn't choose their sexuality, not to say that someone else might. Just from what I've experienced. Not everyone is turned on by the same thing. I don't think you can change your preference later on either. You can date other people and try to make yourself think you're different, but your mind knows what you really want, no matter how hard to try to run from it.

SEXUALITY: Metrosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Mikie

As a clinical psychologist I am asked the question from both gay and straight males. The latest clinical research indicates a strong genetic link. Also the orgasmistic experience will help determine gender preference. No, homosexuality and heterosexuality is not a choice. I have worked with several males and lifestyle is a choice, but gender definition is not. One can be gay openly or closeted. Long live the sexual and gender predispositions. It is time for the Christian right to come to term with this scientific revelations and enjoy sexuality for the God given gift it is.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: bob1

i played a little bit with some of my male friends when I was young, though never had any sexual contact with girls. I am straight and I am attracted to girls and I think they are beautiful and soft and sexy, but a while ago i started thinking I would like to experiment with a guy some time a good looking one and now since then the odd time when I am in the mood I like to fantasize a bit about nice looking guys and even about kissing one but still most of the time I am not in the mood for that but I am always in the mood for girls. but I only had those kind of thoughts since I started considering the idea in my mind, so I think it is because of impressions and your experiences, though some peoples brains are actually shaped differently and that is why they are gay. so im kinda 20% gay on an on-off basic or sumthin i guess.

SEXUALITY: Homosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: davton

I think sexuality is imprinted on you at a young age or that you are born with a inbuilt sexuality. It is important to remeber here that in the early stages of pregnancy the sex of the fetus is always the same, we simply change from that sex (males I believe) at a later stage of the pregnancy (I believe that we all start out as a female fetus though not sure will have to check on that one) this to could have an effect on sexuality and it is my belief that this is the most prominent factor in determineing sexuality. It has also came to my attention that a few people believe they must be of a certain sexuality due to some form of abuse they were subjected to during childhood by members of the same sex, however this false mental imprint of there sexuality subsides in most cases. What is of the upmost importance here is the way in which a person is forced to live as a member of the opposite sexuality due to the way they were brought up or the extremist views that there religion holds. This should be a far more important subject than the determineing factors of a persons sexuality.

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