Male Sexuality Questions on Orientation and Sexual Preference
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NAME: Anon 247 Q: When I was 13, I had a friend
over and we were looking at pictures of women, then he started masturbateing,
and so did I. Then we did it to each other for like 30 seconds and so on
and so on. Is this normal? A: This type of experimentation is common among many men. It should
not be something that bothers you as a past incident because so many people
have had similar experiences. This incident will not necessarily reflect
your future sexuality or sexual preference. However, if you feel
uncomfortable doing these sorts of things in the future, you should set
boundaries and refuse to engage in any sexual activity you feel is troubling
to you.
NAME: Jon-Jon 248 Q: I have a shyness or anxiety towards
males. How can I get over this? A: Slowly and gradually expose yourself to other men in social situations.
You may want to try to join some sort of club, sport, etc. NAME: danny 249 Q: Someone said I was gay. I don't think
I'm gay. Am I gay? A: If you don't think you are gay, then probably you aren't. Don't
worry about it. There are many reasons why someone may call someone else
"gay" -- it can be used as a general implied insult rather than as a sexual
preference label. The word "gay" has several different meanings. He or she
may be calling you names due to their own insecurity.
NAME: Dontae 250 Q: I am 18 and I was wondering was
I gay because I often have the desire to have sex with a male but I am sexually
active w/ females? A: We can not diagnose or "pronounce" anyone as gay. You have to determine
this on your own. Having sex with people is not the way to find out. You
need to honestly evaluate certain factors that help in finding your true
sexual preference.
NAME: Ryan 251 Q: I am a 22 year old gay sexually
active male. Usually when I have sex, I am the one to penetrate, just because
that's the role I prefer, plus it feels better. But a few days ago, I had
sex with a guy I am really interested in, and he put his penis in my anus
and thrusted until he ejaculated. The thing is, as he was thrusting, it felt
amazing all throughout my groin and anus. My penis was huge and throbbing,
and my whole body tingled. I eventually had the best orgasm I'd ever had,
and I shot a lot of sperm. Was this pleasure I felt due to the tip of his
penis rubbing against my prostrate gland? Is this why I ejaculated so much?
A: Stimulation of the prostate gland could definitely have been the
reason for your experience. Also, pressure on the prostate gland tends to
cause larger amounts of seminal ejaculation. Basically, it's like he squeezed
all the juice out of your glands. NAME: that_guy 252 Q: I don't have any male friends
since I'm so shy well I don't have any friends and some time when I'm around
male I get all nervous like I'm gay most people might think I'm gay who meet
me but I'm confused right now A: There are millions of other guys your age around the world who
are also confused right now. You have to hang in there. Just because you
feel the way you do around other guys, doesn't mean anything about your sexual
preference right now. Whether you are gay or straight in the future, you
can make a decent life for yourself. It is important that you try to find
accepting male peers through sports, clubs, events, community, church, etc.
Even if it does not solve your sexuality confusion, it will give you something
else to occupy life's time with. There is a lot more to living than your
sexual preference... even though sexuality may seem like the most important
issue at times.
NAME: underv 253 Q: Every time I read stories about
guys masturbating, I get all horny and turned on (I'm a guy) does this mean
anything? A: I think it might just mean masturbation turns you on.
NAME: mikey 254 Q: I'm 17 and jerkoff twice a day,
and sometimes I get off to naked men on the internet, and I also cum on my
face. Am I gay or is something wrong with me? I love women though.
A: It doesn't necessarily mean you are "gay". Your sexual preference
is something you will find out over time as you grow up. Most men admit to
being "curious" or "aroused" by other males at least some point in their
lives. Internet pictures are not a good way to gauge your overall sexual
preference because it is not "real life". Going out and having short-term
sexual relations with women or men in an effort to try to find your sexual
preference is also not a good way to determine your sexual orientation because
it usually causes more confusion than answers. You have to relax, wait, and
develop long term relationships over time with women (or men, if you
so desire) to ultimately find out who you are sexually. NAME: Luinthon 255 Q: What does "solosexual"
mean? A: A solosexual is a person who is mainly oriented toward, and prefers,
self-masturbation as their sexual outlet. NAME: (Anonymous) 256 Q: Sometimes I fantasize about my
stepbrother who is older than me. I want so badly to do something sexual
with him,or ask him a personal sexual question. Does this make me gay? And
should I ask him about sexual things to satisfy this craving. A: I don't think it means you are necessarily "gay". More than likely,
it is because you are curious. However, I'm not sure you should pursue any
sexual activity with your step-brother. Just because you have a craving does
not mean you should act on it. Plus, acting on a craving does not mean it
will solve the whole issue instantly. In fact, it might make the cravings
more intense in the future. NAME: (Anonymous) 257 Q: I'm a young teen. Sometimes I
want to see what it's like to give a blow-job. How would I find a guy who
would let me try oral sex on him just to see what it's like? A: I have no idea, and I don't think it is a good idea to engage in
sex just because you want to "see what it's like". Sex should involve
companionship, love, mutual understanding of expectations, and a long-term
relationship. NAME: confused 258 Q: When I was 12 I started having
feelings towards other guys, but I felt and still feel guilty about it because
I have been thought that its wrong. So what do you think, should I go with
how I feel or what and I'm guessing this means I am gay doesn't it?
A: I don't know how long ago it was that you were 12. But, it does
not necessarily mean you are "gay". You have to find these things out by
living life and experiencing long term relationships. 259 Q: I sometime stare at guys and wish
I could be friends with them. Does this make me gay? A: No.
260 Q: I heard some people have something
called a 'gaydar'. Is that true? And how can someone learn this new technique
in spotting gay people? A: No, it is not true that such a thing as "gay-dar" exists. The word
and "technique" is also nothing new. Some people are just more observant
when it comes to stereotypical 'gay' mannerisms. Some people are also
just better at guessing things like that correctly. I suppose if you got
to know a number of gay people, you would have a better chance at "spotting"
other gays, but that is not guaranteed.
NAME: Josh 2121 261 Q: I have seen my dad's penis and
I sometimes get a boner when thinking about it. Am I homosexual? A: Probably not. Many heterosexual (straight) men have been known
to have these reactions. These reactions tend to occur even more frequently
at young ages. I wouldn't worry about your sexual preference just yet. Sexuality
is something people discover over long periods of time and growth. Homosexuality
is not something that a doctor or counselor can "diagnose".
NAME: Dan Da Man 262 Q: I have a fake pic of someone on
my profile at this website, and I sometimes get aroused looking at it. It's
not nude or anything. Am I gay? A: There are no profiles or "pics" on this website. There is no way
anyone can tell you that you're gay either. Sexual preference is something
you have to find out on your own. The fact that you are aroused by a picture
means very little about the overall sexual preference of anyone. NAME: Josh 263 Q: I think I may be homosexual. How
can someone know if there're gay? I just turned 16. I am too young to figure
this out. Help! I'm so lost right now! A: (See answer above too.) You're right. You are too young to figure
this out, and you won't get a legitimate, immediate, or straightforward answer
from any website, doctor, counselor, or friend. Sexual preference is something
that accounts for many different factors in your life including, but not
limited to: physical attraction, love, goals, gender identification, culture,
expectations from an intimate partner, bonding needs, and acceptance needs.
Sexual preference is a matter of finding yourself within a spectrum of
sexualities. You might be going through a phase right now. You might be straight
but just a little paranoid. You might be bisexual, or anything else in between
these categories. NAME: Jojo 264 Q: I am 30 years old, male. I find
myself as a person with a gender disorder. For a long time I wanted to change
my sex, to go on hormonal therapy and so on. But, as I reached 29 I was trying
not to think about it. At the same time I stopped watching the sites with
she-males and personal adds with transsexuals. Still I am fighting with it.
I like being with girls and I like having sex with them. But, couple of last
girls I was with I couldn’t get proper sex drive. I easy get hard but
during the sex suddenly everything goes down. Is there a psychological problem
with me cause I am obsessed with transsexuals? A: You would really need to try to develop long term relationships
to figure a lot of this stuff out. I'm not sure if you have had any long
term relationships, but many people in your position have not. Nevertheless,
your struggle with transsexualism is not something that should be overlooked.
It is something you really need to discuss face-to-face with at least one
psychotherapist, psychiatrist, and probably also a gender therapy specialist.
Believe it or not, there are men that go through with sex changes and have
always preferred to be with women in sexual situations. It's almost as if
they are lesbians in male bodies. I'm not saying that is what you are (because
I just don't know you well enough). However, I wanted to make the point that
your past sexual experiences with women should not be the pivotal factor
in any of your decisions regarding gender.