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NAME: Big Bath Boy Q: I am a 45 year old mentally
retarded adult male that still lives at home with mother. I bathe with the
bathroom door open and masturbates while taking a bath. Is this common among
mentally retarded adult males? A: I don't think it is acceptable to masturbate with the bathroom
door open for any adult males that live with their mother. Maybe you should
close the door when you masturbate. However, I do not believe you are that
seriously retarded if you can type, read, write, and use the Internet. Please
do not use the mental disability that you might have as an excuse for lewd
behaviors, because you are ultimately responsible for your own actions. NAME: Wrong! Q: I feel George Bush is a wonderful
president, and I will do anything for my country. However, I completely disagree
with his war on masturbation. It is not bad at all. Don't believe me! Check
out this site that's straight from the white house at
http://www.whitehouse.org/initiatives/purity/index.asp A: I've seen that website before. The whole site is supposed
to be a joke. Whitehouse.org is not actually straight from the "White House".
It is a website domain that an individual rents and publishes for the use
of his own personal freedom of speech. The website is what is known
as a "parody". Click on the link at the very bottom of the page that says
Disclaimer and Terms - http://www.whitehouse.org/tos.asp for more information
about this parody site. Q: My husband and I dated for
6 years and have been married for a year and a half. His sex drive has always
been somewhat low, but we were doing it at least once a month. The last time
I got any was 9 months ago. I'm very much in love with him and can't make
him understand that making love is the ultimate way to say I love you. He's
only 47 and has even been taking Testostoral for about a month and that hasn't
helped. Is it me or is it him? Could it be the fact that his parents never
showed affection in front of him? I hate to be the sex addict nagger but
he won't talk about it. What should I do? A: If he wants to solve his problem, he needs to see his doctor
again. Your sex drive sounds reasonable to me, so you're not a "sex addict".
NAME:Bruce Q: I love reading your insightful
responses to peoples' questions. Could you answer some questions for me about
you? What is your favorite masturbation technique, APatcher? What is the
longest amount of time you've ever gone without ejaculation? What's your
favorite sex position? A: (1) You may have already read them, but I will mention that
I wrote a couple editorials on favorite masturbation techniques. I discussed
the Stop-and-Go method
and what I call the
Stroke that Went
too Far technique. (2) I think the longest I ever went without ejaculation
was two weeks and it was when I was 15. (3) Interestingly enough, may favorite
sex position happens to be with clothing on and "dry humping" or with only
partially exposing bodies/genitals. I also like to do it in my vehicle.
I think it is exciting and innocent at the same time. I rarely get fully
nude even if I am inside my bedroom because I think the clothing adds its
own sensual dimension to sex. NAME: Nick00 Q: (1) A-pathcher? Did I spell
that right? A: (1) No, it's APatcher or A. Patcher, H.D. NAME: William Q: I wonder if you could answer
a personal question. APatcher, when you have sex, what is your favorite position
to be in. Do you like the girl to ride you, or do you like it doggy-style?
Do you pull out before you ejaculate, or do you use condoms? A: I answered personal questions above (click this
link) under the name "Bruce". Sorry, I'm not allowed to tell any more.
It would be a breach of my anonymity. NAME: Enghyt Q: Please tell me who you are
that is answering the people? Please send me your detail address and
designation? A: I am "APatcher". I am anonymous and under no obligation to
discuss details. However, I will tell you that I have a four-year Bachelor's
degree from an accredited university with a course concentration in psychology.
I also have graduate-study experience in human sexuality and four years of
experience running the FAQs of Life and other Raw
Psychology Productions websites. There are also currently three other
people who work on different parts of this website. You can access information
about the intentions of this website and our mailing address by visiting
the Mission and Purpose
Page.
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NAME: Mike Q: Do you enjoy abstaining from
masturbation or sex for a long time to build up more semen and ejaculate
more or have a bigger orgasm? Today is July 17, when was the last time you
ejaculated? I last ejaculated on July 4. A: It sounds like you are suggesting a poll for one of our
Ongoing Male Sexuality
Polls. Suggestions can be taken to the
Suggestion Box. I'm not
going to answer for myself because I'm not really keeping track, to be honest
with you. NAME: porno Q: I am 13 and I like porn. We
have HBO and it's on late at night. But my parents stay up, so I usually
can't watch it. And I'm always afraid that their going to find out I look
at porno online. Is there some other possibility to see porn? A: I think you should read the
Mission and Purpose Statement of
this website by clicking on the blue
link. We generally don't advocate
for outside issues, including, but not limited to, what you are asking about
here. NAME: darwin Q: Women seem to orgasm most easily
by having their clitoris stimulated, maybe even by a vibrator, which does
not simulate actual sex. My question is this: if humans evolved so that
penis-vagina intercourse is the most pleasurable activity in which man and
woman can participate, then why would stimulation of the clitoris be more
pleasurable to women than penile penetration? It doesn't sound Darwinian.
One would think that the most pleasurable sexual activity would result in
possible impregnation to further the species, yet "standard" copulation,
for lack of a better term, does not stimulate the woman's clitoris.
A: It is possible that the locations of the most sensitive sexual
areas actually cause a beneficial limiting factor in the human species in
that the population of the world is about 6,312,000,000 instead of
979,000,000,000. Limiting factors can allow for more available resources
for those who end up being conceived, born, and live. On the other hand,
evolution is a never-ending process and it's happening now rather
than something that happened in the past. NAME: confu Q: For as long as I can remember
(start of puberty), I only loved girls, or thought of girls. Doing something
homosexual never even crossed my mind. But the frustrating thing was, that
I never had a chance during my teens to have sexual contact with a girl.
And, as can be guessed, I blamed myself and thought other guys were better.
Because people close to me knew I was inexperienced with girls, they pestered
me for being gay. So this situation became my weak point. Finally at age
20 I got a girlfriend, and I felt like I was in heaven. Sex was, of course,
great. But after some months the relationship started to deteriorate, and
past insecurities came back strong. At some point, everything went wrong.
I started to get compulsive thought about having sex with men. I was diagnosed
with OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder). Not very healthy. well since then
I felt losing myself. I can tell this stuff got a very bad effect on your
mental health. A couple of days ago, I stumbled on a gay porn picture, and
to my surprise, it aroused me. The bottom line is, i'm totally confused now.
thinking all day about jumping on a man isn't very good. Lately, my interest
in girls decreased more. I feel like i'm losing my heterosexuality. do you
have any suggestions? A: One suggestion is to make sure your don't isolate yourself.
If at all possible, try to spend time with other people in a social way.
Secondly, try to think of attraction and sexuality beyond something like
a porn picture. Which gender you want to fall in love with is more important
than the attraction you might find for a picture of skin on paper or on a
computer. You may be straight or gay or something in between. I can't tell
what you are from what you told me. However, I can tell you that sexuality
is much more than fantasy, porn, pictures, and thoughts. It is also about
sharing, loving, giving, taking, and acceptance. You will find that your
true sexuality will be much more influenced by the second list. Q: I have masturbated from almost
5 years old, I have very light skin I have noticed that my penis color is
now a tan colour. I believe it is from the masturbation, and that the skin
has built up a protection from the rubbing like a callus. I have stopped
masturbating completely as of 5 months ago, and I would like to know if this
excess skin or tan color will disappear. Also I would like to know what exactly
occurs when you do not masturbate for an extended period (aching balls, higher
sex drive etc..etc..), I have read your previous answers to similar questions
but. More specifically, I would also like to know without crossing the line
and returning to excessive masturbation, can you masturbate once a month
(should you?) to release the build up without making the act a habit once
again? A: Without masturbation or sex, you can experience some temporary
discomfort with the testicles (balls) and most likely a higher sex drive.
If you stopped masturbating 5 months ago, and the problem did not go away,
it might not have been from masturbation. Penises come in all shapes and
colors. Just because yours is more tan than what you might have seen on someone
else does not mean it is a bad thing. Maybe you could try using lubrication
with a moisturizer in it to reduce this friction or callous issue. It is
possible to masturbate without it being excessive in most cases. However,
I have no idea how severe your masturbation frequency was, or if it even
was severe at all.
Q: (1) I am a survivor of adolescent
sexual abuse.I am now 32 and engaged to a great lady who I love very much.
I find that my sexual appetite is as strong as ever and require sex or
masturbation at least twice daily (usually morning and night). My problem
is this: She doesn't want it as much as I do, yet many times when we do have
sex, I have erection difficulties. My mind and heart are in it, but my penis
goes numb; even during masturbation. She also doesn't care for some of my
requests which I believe she finds deviant (ie. anal play for each, oral
sex, water sports). She has told me that she has tried some of these things
in the past with other lovers, but she won't try them with me. I am saddened
by the fact that she seems to be growing distant to me and/or uses sex as
a form of punishment (not giving it to me). I end up quite often using
pornographic materials to satisfy myself more often than not. Am I a sicko?
Is she frigid? And can we still have a good marriage ahead of us? A:You're not a sicko. Relax and take things slowly with
your partner. But if you feel as bad as you said above, you could probably
find a more understanding partner who you could love equally in amount. If
she says she wants to "punish" you sexually, it is very possible that is
not a good sexual relationship, unless you enjoy that kind of thing. Obviously,
we cannot see you or your partner or decide the future of relationships based
on one paragraph of a question on a website.
