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Frequently Asked Questions and Advice on
Male Sex and Sexuality Related Issues

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BELOW ARE SOME SAMPLES OF CATEGORIZED QUESTIONS THAT ARE OFTEN ASKED:  
You can click on the big blue links to go to the topic pages where full pages of answered questions are archived.

NAME:   Just wondering
180 QUESTION:   How do most men discover masturbation?
ANSWER: Most men begin "playing with themselves" as children (stimulating the penis by hand before puberty) because they notice the penis is a sensitive area of the body. When puberty occurs, this usually leads to an ejaculation at some point, after a period of stimulating the penis by hand. For most men, the first ejaculation is a surprise. However, good feelings tend to come from it. In the future, they masturbate on purpose to achieve this ejaculation and climax. Orgasms can and do often happen before puberty, but orgasms are not typically accompanied by an ejaculation or intense climax as they would be during and after puberty. --- Read more questions and answers on the Masturbation Topics Here

The Penis Functions and the Physical Male Body

NAME:   lost
212 QUESTION:   When I masturbate, my sperm doesn't come out with pressure, it only rolls down from the tip of the opening. And only 4 or 5 drops come out. I know there is something? Please vivify this!
ANSWER: I'm not sure I can 'vivify' it. However, it can be perfectly normal to ejaculate the way you described. But if you feel pain while ejaculating, there could be a blockage somewhere. In the unlikely event that this is the case, you would have to visit a medical professional (doctor) to determine what the problem is. You might want to see a doctor anyway to ease your mind. Obviously, I cannot see what you are describing, so my answer is unfortunately vague, and I apologize for that. But the average amount of semen a man ejaculates is only about a teaspoon full. For some guys it is less and for others it is more.
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NAME:   geogre
229 QUESTION:   How long does it take to grow back hair after you shave it all off, because I think since I've been masterbating I look like I'm losing hair.
ANSWER: Are you shaving it or losing it? There's a difference. It takes a number of weeks to grow back hair that has been shaved.
Masturbation does not actually cause hair loss (hair to fall out by itself). So, if you are losing hair and you don't know why, you may want to check with a doctor to see if you have a medical condition that could be causing the hair loss. Read more questions and answers on Penis Functioning and the Physical Male Body Here

Penis Size and Length Concerns

NAME:   booboo
116 QUESTION:   I am 22 years old, I never had sex until at this age. I have no clue why does my penis get smaller after sex and what are the exercise to make my penis get bigger and longer. I don't want to use any pills or drugs? please help me out.
ANSWER: Just leave it be. It's normal for it to get smaller after sex. You don't need pills or drugs or exercises.
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NAME:   (Anonymous)
130 QUESTION:   What is the normal width of a penis?
ANSWER: The true "width" can not actually be measured. Usually, they measure the circumference by wrapping a string around the erection and then measuring how much space the circumference of the penis took up by comparing the string with a ruler. Circumferences range quite a bit from male to male and it varies quite a bit depending on where along the penis you take the measurement. Personally, I don't trust any of the "average" or "normal" statistics I have read on this issue. There is really nothing conclusive published yet on average penis "width" as far as I'm concerned. Read more questions and answers on Penis Size Concerns Here

Male Puberty and Development Questions

NAME:   Arun
233 QUESTION: I have an uncircumcised penis. When it is fully erect, I cannot pull the foreskin back, Is there any abnormality?
ANSWER: This question is a normal concern among many uncircumcised young men. From researching questions in the past, I have learned there is a process you can try little by little to get the foreskin to pull back. Do not be alarmed and do not force the foreskin back. The key is to gradually slide the foreskin back further each time. Sometimes lubrication such as Vaseline, petroleum jelly, K-Y jelly, or even soap in the shower can help the process. But do not force yourself into pain. I think you will be able to pull the foreskin all the way back eventually, but it will take time for your body to adjust to the new changes.  
I would like to offer you a link that that you might find interesting. There is a medical condition called Phimosis where the foreskin cannot be retracted, and this must be treated by a doctor. You can click on that blue word link to read about it. However, I do not think you have this problem. I just think you might be interested in reading it because you have an uncircumcised penis. The link might also answer some other questions you may have. Look for the section called "Phony Phimosis Diagnosis". Read more questions and answers on the Puberty Topics Here
( Recommended for parents and teachers only. Young students should choose
a resource from the following page: K & T - Sexuality )

Sexual Activities, Thoughts, and Practices

NAME:   Mark
209 QUESTION:   Whenever I experience any romantic emotions, I get an erection, no matter how hard I try to avoid it. This has caused some problems. I'm inexperienced with the opposite sex. Could this be the cause? If not, just what the heck is my subconscious trying to tell me?
ANSWER: Romantic emotions often involve an erection. I think your response is just part of being a normal male.
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NAME:   Frank
211 QUESTION: I find it exciting to masturbate in public. Sometimes flashing people walking or in cars. I've been careful, but lately I'm getting daring (or stupid). The more aroused the more I want to do more, to the point where it becomes dangerous. I'll either get beaten up or arrested. Considering the consequences, why does it excite me so much? Am I in the beginning stages of what they call a sexual predator?
ANSWER: Actually, you are in the beginning stages of a Paraphilia known as Exhibitionism. A "Paraphilia" is a general abnormal sexual urge or behavior, which can be many different things. More specifically, you are dealing with a paraphiliac abnormality called Exhibitionism -- in which you have urges to reveal your private parts to unsuspecting people. Unfortunately for you, it is possible (or probable) that you will eventually be arrested for this action. You may never have been and may never become a "sexual predator". But most people who are exposed to an exhibitionist feel they are being sexually victimized. In a way, they assume or fear that you are a sexual predator (a rapist). If I were you, I would seek professional help in the form of psychological counseling before an arrest takes place. I think it would be very embarrassing and humiliating to get arrested for this type of thing. In the United States, and other nations, all criminal arrests become part of the pubic's records. This means that newspapers or TV news programs can revel your name and the charges filed against you -- even before a court finds you guilty. But the following site seems to offer personal stories on both legal and illegal exhibitionism ExhibitionistPost.com
Yes, there are healthy outlets that some exhibitionists find wonderful. Read more questions and answers on Sex Activities, Thoughts, and Practices Here

Sexual Orientation and Sexual Preference Questions

NAME:   tron
226 QUESTION:   I'm gay but don't really want to be and I act like a normal guy nothing gay about me accept the fact that I like guys I'm really not turned on by women at all. How can I change this and become a str8 guy like all my other friends.
ANSWER: Unfortunately, "sexuality" is not always what we want to be... Sexual orientation is more like what we find out about ourselves over time, with mental growth, and experience with long-term relationships. Some methods have been proposed to help people "change" their sexual preference, but many guys find it easier to simply accept themselves as they are. Also, you may be interested in reading http://sexeditorials.com/theory/bisexual.html
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NAME:   Anonymous
228 QUESTION: I sometimes think about my male friend when I am masturbating. Does this mean I am gay ?
ANSWER: Check out http://male101.com/edi/other-males.html  To answer your question -- not necessarily gay -- In fact, it's not usually what you might fear most. Read more questions and answers on Sex Orientation and Preference Here

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008 QUESTION:   What is a douche bag?
ANSWER: A device women use to hold the cleansing liquid while "douching". Typically, a douche has a plastic applicator to insert into the vagina for washing and hygiene purposes. But... the term "douche bag"  is also slang term that gets used a lot when immature men try to desperately insult one another.
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015 QUESTION:   While having sex with my girlfriend, sometimes when she's on top and I pull out a lot of watery substance comes out of her vagina (about a 1/2 of cup to a cup) Could this mean that she just really enjoys the sex? Could this be considered female ejaculation? How can she make it shoot out?
ANSWER: That is not really a male sexuality question. I'm really not sure what's going on down there with her, but women do have secretions and/or ejaculations from the vagina.
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017 QUESTION:  What does it mean when a girl is "WET"
ANSWER: This is not a male sexuality question. However, I will say: Lubricative fluids secrete from the vagina when a woman becomes sexually aroused.
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