How do you feel about masturbation in a relationship?
How would you feel about your wife or husband masturbating?
Do you or would you masturbate by yourself if in a long-term relationship?

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I prefer having sex with my wife than by myself. Masturbation can be used as a form of foreplay. Or, when one can not perform sexually, the other might masturbate to take care of their own need till the other is able to again. i.e.: illness, injury, etc.

SEXUALITY: Homosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Thane

I started to masturbate when I was about 12 years old. My friend showed me how to do it and said he had been doing it for about 2 years, (He was also 12) and he told me I was a late starter but boy did I make up for lost time? Several years later I met a guy and had a homosexual relationship with him and I loved it but I still wanked a lot on my own. Then someone "got" to me and said I was being very wicked and sinful by "abusing" myself and God would punish me. This worried me becusae I am a god fearing guy, so I tried to live a celibate life but it was just impossible. Eventually I met a girl and we got on very well together and I had my first "straight" sex and I felt I must be cured of my masturbatory habits so we got married and what a disaster it was! Too late I discovered I was truly homosexual and just could not have sex with my wife but I was back to masturbating every day. Somehow or other we stayed together and have been married now for 50 years. I am still masturbating fairly regularly although I no longer ejaculate any semen and sometimes I cannot get a full erection but the pleasure is still there I am now 80 years old but am told by lots of people I only look about 65. So maybe masturbation is the elexir of youth?

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: barry

I'm 18 and have been masturbating since I was about 10. I have a girlfriend. We've been together for 3 years. She loves to watch me. We masturbate together a lot.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Married with children

Masturbation provides sexual BALANCE a relationship. It's very unlikely that both partners in a relationship will want to have exactly the same amount of sex. Masturbation allows both partners to have as many, or as few, orgasms as he or she desires. When a man masturbates, he is doing his partner a FAVOR by not pestering her into having sex when she's not in the mood.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: todd

I'm married and masturbate almost every day. My wife knows this and thinks it's OK. She masturbates too, but not as much as me. Sometimes she watches, or joins me, but she's OK if I do it by myself. Masturbation rocks!

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Dick

Masturbation. Wanking. Jerkin the gerkin. 101 things to do by yourself or with close friends, but would never tell your parents. If you tell me you are not into masturbation, or have never tried it, go wash your hands, you're lying. It's as normal and natural as breating or drinking Guinness. Masturbation is good for you (to quote the Guinness advert). Wether in a relationship or not, it's cheap,healthy, and allways fun. If you read between the lines on this survey, and cum to the conclusion that the writer of the survey was thinking that the partner in the relationship would not like the fact that the other was tossing off without them, then the question of comunication between the couple comes into play. As long as the lines of comunication are open, then there should be no problem in pulling oneself off, even if thinking of another whild doing it. Lord knows that most women enjoy watching their man give them a show, as well as most men love watching their ladys. I scream, you scream, we all scream for face cream. Remember, only do it till you need glasses. Now, they ask if I would tug the bug while in a relationship? Try and stop a fast moving train...

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: biggun

I feel that masturbation is an important part of any relationship. It shows that both you and your partner are comfortable with your bodies and are able to express that in a healthy way.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER:
TITLE: Big Nut

Are you kidding? Masterbation is just a fact of life. We all do it, and we all do it all the time. What does being in a relationship have to do with it. Masterbating is not cheating. Even my Catholic straight-laced wife has been masterbating for a long time. In fact, I introduced her to toys since she had only used her hand and a pillow (don't ask) since high school. 12 years and 3 kids later, she asks me to get her thicker and thicker toys to give her that "full" feeling. My penis is less than average in length, but is much thicker than most (it is like a little fire plug). I made a few gals in my life bleed when they are younger, even though I've never had a virgin. ------ Both of us masterbate in private as well as toghther. One of our favorite diversions (once every week or two) is to watch each other masterbate. Sometimes she asks me to lick her or finger her while she pumps the vibrator in and out, but mostly we get off watching each other. My favorite thing is watching her face and body contort when she has a mind-blowing self-inflicted orgasm. She used to feel guily about having an orgasm using a toy when I was next to her, but she's gotten over it. She still prefers to get on top and ride me to an orgasm. Once in awhile, she'll even jump on top and use a smaller vibrator between us. Sometimes, when we are mutually masterbating, if I have not finished when she is done, she pops the vibrator out of her and slides it along my balls, which of course causes me to finish in an instant.

SEXUALITY: Celibate
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Brother MW

Being a monk and celibate means you're really horny and lust constantly for women.--- Now that I'm 52 and still a virgin I'm reaching down between my legs for a good time almost every day. I have a lot of interaction with college aged women....mmmmmmmm! Seeing shaply asses encased in tight jeans, breasts and cleavage protruding out of tank tops, lots of bare abdomens ...... jack off city even sometimes during the day I find a restroom stall and relieve my tease-hardened prick and swollen balls. ---I have a step ladder in my little room in the rectory, and lay it down on the floor, and lay down on top of the ladder, put skin cream on my palm and wrap it around my stiff dick and thrust back and forth until I cum! ---Also I like standing in front of the mirror and stroke my dick. Sometimes women "friends" will give me their used panties when I'm leaving one place for another (reassigned) and I like sniffing them when I jerk off. --- In most monasteries I've been in we (monks) sit on one side of a wall with little openings and look through them at our visitors. We get lots of really attractive women visitors, wearing tight blouses, unbuttoned top button or two, lots of cleavage and all we can do is lust for what we're not getting. Pardon me while I go and jack off. --- A couple of summers I worked at a Catholic camp near a river and helped to run the place. Six of us monks lived in one big room in a cabin and we'd enjoy watching each other jerk our meats before we'd go to sleep and when we'd wake up. ---The fresh mountain air and shapely young women kept us very horny. A few times we could look out through the narrow windows in the cabin at the "shows" they'd put on, like touching their crotches and taking off their blouses so we could see their breasts and nipples. They'd dance while we'd jerk.--- On two occasions a muscular young man came inside and danced around, stripped and would fondle us and give us blow jobs. That's the only time I've ever had sex with somebody else. It felt good getting sucked off. --- bye

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Female
TITLE: baby girl

I am 31 and I guess sheltered about masterbation. I freaked out when I went into me and my boyfriend of 5 yrs bedroom after my shower and found fresh sperm wrapped up in our sheet. I love to have sex, why didn't he want me?? I would have sex and time he wanted it, I can't help but wonder if it is something I am doing wrong. I would love to watch and join in, it turns me on just thinking about it, but he got angry that I found it and confronted him and he won't talk to me about it at all! He is actually angry and why? I want him to do it with me, but he is still angry and I am afraid this is going to end our 5 year relationship. Does anyone have any suggestions for me?Please help!!!

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Anonymous

I love to masturbate. I do it all the time, when I am in the mood. Sometimes I thin about my girlfriend on top of me and sometimes I just do it...It's not a bad thing to masturbate in a relationship because it promotes a healthy sex life. I have never had sex but I hope to soon. I love my girlfriend verymuch and I hope this is something we can share together. I have been jacking off since I discovered it when I was in forth grade.. I am 14 now and it feels better because I ejaculate. so you never know how good it feels untill you do it...dont be afraid to talk to someone about it even your girlfriend or wife!

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