How do you feel about masturbation in a relationship?
How would you feel about your wife or husband masturbating?
Do you or would you masturbate by yourself if in a long-term relationship?

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I prefer masturbation and porn to sex with my wife. I no longer find her sexually attractive and have a difficult time getting an erection or ejaculating when I do try to have sex with her. Here _____ are flat and saggy, she has the jelly belly from having kids and she is covered with ugly moles. I have begged her to get breast implants, have the moles removed, and get lipo on her gut. But she is a "take me as I am" kind of woman. I can't even get her to shave her pubic area. She knows I find the hair down there disgusting. She wonders why we never have sex anymore and why I am whacking to porn on the computer every night. The way I look at it, if she's not willing to do what it takes to make herself attractive to me then she just has to accept the consequences.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: slim

I've been married for 16 years to a great wife who is very open minded. one day I caught my wife masterbating in the bath I was glad that she felt comfortable enuf to endulge. That night I brought it up to her and now we Both masterbate regularly, alone and together. I work at a camp through the week and instead of her going out to find someone to please her needs she just stays home and takes care of herself. It has taken nothing from our relationship, only added to the security and honesty. The great thing is is she likes it when I watch

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Female
TITLE: Veronica

I think masturbation is essential to a healthy sex relationship. I masturbate all the time, at least once a day. I've masturbated in front of my boyfriend but get this, he won't do it in front of me even though i've told him that it really turns me on. I masturbate him all the time too. He's afraid to do it. I guess his hangups or for whatever reason he can't do it. So if I happen across him doing it I try to be quiet and not let my presence be known so I can listen to him getting himself off. Something about it a guy getting himself off just really gets me hot.

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Kent

I'm 56, married and masturbate regularly, at least twice a day, and have since age 12 when my roommate at school showed me how. I'm not sure my wife would approve, but after 32 years of marriage, I'm sure she knows. We haven't been able to have sex for a couple of years due to a medical condition she has. Without the realease of masturbation, I sure would be hard continue being faithful to her and I certainly want to do that.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Steve

I think masturbation while in a relationship is perfectly normal as long as my partner is getting what she nedds from me. I have sex with my wife approximately twice a week and masturbate daily. I am fine with my wife masturbating.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Anonymous

My wife will not under any circumstances masturbate but she doesn't mind me bringing her to climax even if we never have intercourse. Sometimes she will bring me to climax but prefers me inside her more often than not. Because of oor ages we don't have intercourse too often these days particulary as both suffer ill health. I do love to masturbate and will do so 3 times in one night or sometimes 2-3 times per week. Depends on how sexy I am feeling.-----My best time though was with a woman friend some 22 years ago. She lived alone having lost her husband and I would occasionally go to her house to help with work about the garden. One particularly hot afternoon and when I was all hot and sweaty she made me remove my shirt. She hung it up to dry and then came back to me rubbing her hands all over my chest and around my sides. To my surprise and excitement I felt her undo my zip and slide her hand inside my underpants feeling for my by now stiffening penis. She pulled it out of my trousers asking if I minded and I meekly said not at all. She rubbed me ever so gently until the juices began to flw which she then proceeded to spread all around my glans making it easier to rub me. I could feel I was coming and said I was going to have an accident before long if she wasn't careful. She just said well I don't mind if you don't and continued to rub until I eventually came in several bursts all over her kitchen floor. She then stood back from me, leant against the kitchen furniture, lifted her skirt, dropped her panties and began to masturbate herself in front of me. To help her she bent down and gathered some of my sperm on her fingers and spread it all arond her vagina. I watched in amazement as she brought herself to a climax. Obviously not having seen this done by any woman I was was quite quite interested. Once she had come down off the ceiling she asked me quitely if I would like to enetr her. I hestiated and she said you don't have to but it would be nice. You know since Tony died I haven't had any male sex at all. My dick was still hanging out of my trousers during all this so I undid my trouser belt let them fall to the floor, went over to her and gently lifting her off the floor was able to insert my penis into her moist warm and welcoming vagina and in short time came in her. We did this on average twice a month for 2 years until he died suddenly aged 63.

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER: Male
TITLE: BionicJoey

Masturbation in a relationship is, in my opinion, fine; as long as the masturbation is not substituting for the intimate contact of one's partner. ----- If, in a relationship, my partner masturbates, that's none of my business; again, as long as that isn't a substitute for our relations. After all, we all have our own "cycles of desire" and they don't always meet the desires of our partner. ----- I would, and have, masturbated in a relationship but it never interferred with the relationship.

SEXUALITY: Homosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: LittleFairyJerkoffBoy

MASTURBATION IN A RELATIONSHIP. I can't avoid masturbating, whether or not I'm in a relationship. I play with myself all the time; I just can't stop. I always tell my partner I'm a jerkoff and encourage him or her to call me Jerkoff. I'm ashamed of being a jerkoff and I'm ashamed of jerking off. But I enjoy the shame, so I guess it's O.K.---- PARTNER MASTURBATING. That's fine with me.---- MASTURBATING IN A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP. I can't stop masturbating. When I was married I still played with myself every day. She knew I jerked off, and she called me Jerkoff, even in front of our friends. I encouraged her to call me Jerkoff. Being called Jerkoff embarrassed me, but I liked it. I still like being called Jerkoff, and I encourage my friends to use Jerkoff as my nickname. But few people call me Jerkoff. I definitely am a little jerkoff, and everyone knows that. But they still seem reluctant to call me Jerkoff, even though they know that's what I am and that I like the shame of being called Jerkoff.---- I hope you people will be comfortable with calling me Jerkoff.----

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Chris

I think if guys are honest, they'll admit to masturbating regularly. I'm in a good marriage with a very active sex life - we have intercourse four to five time a week - but still feel the need to wank every day. I've always had a strong sex drive, and my wife understands this. When we first got married, I told her I masturbate and after ten years of marriage and four kids, she's certainly seen me jerking off enough times. I mostly do it in the mornings while shaving or showering. However, as much as I love wanking, it can't replace intercourse.

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Mano

To masterbate or not to masterbate, now that is not a hard question. The answer is YES, masterbate. Its natural. We start to pleasure our self by touch at a very young age even before we know what it is we are doing. All we know is that it feels good. I think everyone does it, even if they do not admit it. It is a pleasure thing. It feels good to do it and it makes you feel good. Tension is released. Some times it is quick, just for a fast relief. Other times, its for the sensations and you take your time. As far as a partner goes, it is acceptable as long as it does not become a substitute for intimacy. I know that my partner masterbates. That is no problem for me as I do it to. In any long term relationship their will be many times and reasons for masterbation. It may be the only way to release sexual energy, without being unfaithful. So should you deny your self. NO, You should not! Pent up sexual tension is bad, so enjoy it guilt free.

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: ramjet

i feel that masterabation is fine in a marriage, I masterbate daily. it helps me to relieve my sexual anxiety that I have. been married for 17 years and no longer have sex with my wife. enjoy masterbating with others for mutual

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