Have you ever tried to quit or cut down on masturbation?

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SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Handy Man

This is kind of funny because it happened twice to me. I used to come home lay in bed and read the Leg Show stories every day while stroking my penis with the comforter on my bed. 4 or 5 days in a row of this and my penis got real red, dry and the skin started to crack. It felt kind of strange... like a dry leaf. I stopped masturbating for about a week to let it heal. After a while, I was putting moisturizing lotion on it... and you know what happend next. Because I hadn't masturbated in almost a week I shot 5 or 6 ropes all over the place.  My wife was not happy. It was all over the place in the bathroom. Thats about as long as I've gone in all the 20 years I've been masturbating.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: John

I'd like to quit not because I think it's "wrong" necessarily but because to do it, I have to allow certain thoughts into my mind that are not conducive to cultivating wisdom and compassion, and sometimes are downright scary. On the other hand, when I stop for a while, all I can think about is sex, so maybe I can balance it by doing it occasionally and using more "normal" fantasies. This might satisfy my libido while keeping my mind as pure as possible throughout the day.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: James

I was addicted for about a year or so, I tried everything, but I couldn't manage it. But I finally managed to give it up for good. What I done was wait for new year to roll round and tell tell myself "Right, I'm going to give it up for a resolution". The feeling and emotion to stop was so great when I told myself, that I realized how incrdibly easy it was to give up. The impulses to jerk off were no longer as strong! And the thing is, once you go about a month of not jerking off, then you no longer need to do it. You can go through your whole day without jerking ! Honest, it does work !

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Madmandan

I've tried to cut down numerous times. I've just felt that I was masturbating too much and I should be doing something better instead. The times I have tried, I have only lasted two or three days without wanking. Of course after that long I'm gagging for it so I spend the whole of the next day wanking, wasting more time doing it than I would have if I never tried to cut down.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Controller

Yes, I stopped. I will let my wife masturbate me, or just receive the pleasure of sexual intercourse suffices my desires...I control my body and desires, they don't control me.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Mike

I stopped because I know it is morally wrong. I vowed on my pets death, took 2 years. But it is worth it, sometiems I doubt myself but I know that my wife is going to give it to me 42x better.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Bill

The most I have ever tried to quit was just not do it on Sundays for religous purposes, but I couldn't stand it and found that I was most horny on Sundays. After all, if God didn't want us to masturbate he would've made our arms shorter.

SEXUALITY: Homosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: nuts

yeah, i've kept from doing it for about six months to a year at a time. what usually follows is a psychological episode of some kind. in my case, abstinence is not, in the long run, wise. be healthy guys, wank responsibly

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: JJ

Once, but it only lasted about a week or so. I couldn't control it, it was like coming home after a long trip, it just felt like the best thing in the world at the time. It felt so good, I never tried to quit after that.

SEXUALITY: In-Between
GENDER: Male
TITLE: manju

I've tried to cut the habit because of religious conflict.. but the more I tried to cut it, the more I find myself craving for it. It's as if my dick is calling my hand to stroke it so badly!!

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Joe

So far i've gone 2 weeks--now it's all I can think about. I've got a contest goin w/ a few friends so i've got a greater incentive to keep my hands outta my pants. It's hard, though. I really don't know how much longer I can go. I found myself slowly jerking off a starbucks coffee cup today. Who knows where this will lead. It even took me 3 hours to fall asleep last night.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: guess

 i tried quitting for as long as I could.... i started one sunday and I just jacked off as much as I could then the next day I was like i'm giving it up.... so the next day comes and I see all these fine ass girls at school and I got so horny..i got home it was around nine I saw this commerical for girls gone wild popped a boner...and couldnt do it...i pulled my pants off and jacked off and in like a minute it was all over my chest..i will never ever do that again..dumbest idea I ever had...dont try it

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Nick1

Even as a 14 year old I never did try to cut down. I realised VERY early that ALL of my boarding school mates were doing it in the dorm. I have enjoyed every one of them without a moment of guilt.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: John

I've attempted to stop but the urges of fulfilment always overcome me. The most I've managed was a week entire but through it all my mind was preoccupied with sexual fantasies. Indeed the reason why I often resume is because I start fantasizing about every girl I c. Their under-apprells (thongs + panties)in particular reocurr in my fantasies. I can't quit and won't. Incidently does masturbation as a subtitute for sex reinforce shyness?

SEXUALITY: Homosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: spiritual experience

i am 22 and stopped masturbating as an experiment about ten days ago. Before that I j/o almost every day. I decided to do an experiment and just see what happens as the sexual energy builds up. This is the most powerful energy we have. sometimes I can feel the energy right below my navel. I am going to try to make it 2 months. I am enjoying it now, and have had a few close calls. but the cool thing I am learning is that sexual feelings don't always have to culminate with an orgasm. and I am really looking forward to the mother-load.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Anonymous

I tried to stop once, however I found I had wet dreams often and read that if you masturbate you will be less likely to have wet dreams. I hate wet dreams cuz I have to get up early very morning and have no time to "clean up."

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Rick

I would lessen the frequency after an excessive session, that is I woudn't masturbate for several days until the soreness from the excess disappeared. Masturbation was a teen age obsession for me.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Spunky

I've been trying for about two-three years because I think it's really unhealthy to let the kind of things into my head (it's also to do with my faith). I've managed about two weeks st a time, that's the best I can do, it's damn addictive. I managed to go for almost all of lent a few years ago...

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: MarriedWanker

It has been an ongoing attempt to stop masturbating since I started. The longest I have went is over 2 months. The easiest times are when the wife is in the mood at least once a week. Usually I last about a week at a time before I start seeing every woman nekkid. It is amazing how the testosterone affects the brain. I have did a lot of research in this area. My faith in God drives me to want to quit, and I have found as I approach 30 my desire to get off has started to lessen, or at least it seems to take longer to get the testosterone levels built up. I stay faithful to my wife except for this one vice. My biggest problem with masturbation is that it brings me to my computer to watch porn while I do it. This compounds the guilty feelings. I have found information that may help some of the others out there who are struggling to quit. First off, when you masturbate you are putting pleasure ahead of everything else in your life. Secondly my faith is weaker the more I do it, so I cannot continue and grow closer to God, and Thirdly there are other ways to get rid of the testosterone. Excercise, any kinds of sports, or intercourse. Giving yourself something constructive to do, rather than leaving yourself with the opportunities to do it help also.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: usa

I have been trying to stop for a long time. About 3-4 years now... The longest I have gone without it is a year and a half, although that was a while ago now. I can usually go for a month or two before giving in and it goes in cycles. It is a lot better living without it. Once you get away from the habit your life has a different tone to it, a much better tone. Coming back to it always gets me down, but I keep trying. It has to be possible. Mind over matter.

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: BI MAN

Tried to quit jacking off for 2 days. ended up after 2 days I was ready to jack off faster quicker till I came super fast and the cum flew everywhere and down right watery in fact. Now i am back to me is what I call NORNMAL..... 2 to 4 times a day. Love when I cum these days, shakeing all over.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: nihilist37

used to masturbate 2 or 3 times a day. totally quit sex and masturbation bit over 18 months ago. in the time that i was a masturbater i quit several other times but ended up having sex with a girlfriend. i quit because i wanted to remove women and other distractions from my life. i needed to concentrate on more important things. carnal pleasure is not the path i have taken to personal enlightenment. the outcome is that i have more focus and direction than i can ever have imagined. i havent told anyone that i dont partake in carnal union but everyone always comments on how well thought my responses are and how much insight i have. they also make note that i have a certain air about me, like im am above them or something. i am by no means a proud man but i will admit that what they say is right. i have no doubt that quiting physical pleasure has made my life infinetly better. i would encourage any and everyone to just try it for an extended period of time.

SEXUALITY: Monosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Anonymous

I Tried To Quit Masturbating Quite A Few Years Ago As I Thought That I Was Masturbating To Much So I Quit, Then I Started To Have Wet Dreams And Was Thinking Of Sex All The Time. I Had Quit For Two Months And Just Couldn't Stand It Any More So I Masturbated Again And The Feeling Was So Fantastic That I Just Had To Do It Again And Have Been Masturbating Ever Since. I Now Do It From 4 To 8 Times A Week. A Man Has To Masturbate!

SEXUALITY: Undecided
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Justin M

Never felt a need to cut down on the masturbating. I like it, I know how to do it, it feels really good and basically, spankin it is the right thing to do if you wanna do it!

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: jlkj

It is a depressent. It robs you of your spark. I am never glad I did it afterwards. Yes - of course ejaculation feels great. But such a short burst. Its not worth it. To stop - one must stop the visual temptation. The first sinners saw something that 1: Looked good. 2: Tasted good. 3: Would give them a new experience and knowledge - an adventure so to speak. We can learn lots from the the first mistake. After you bury this temptation one has a compassion for women that simply wasn't there before. A woman's appearance doesn't control you as much. In that way you have more freedom! But it is constant diligence. Its so easy to have confidence that "I can look at that picture - she's just so beautiful" doesn't morph into "I'd love to touch that...." or "I wonder what it would feel like?" etc. When you sin without sex you hurt other people. When you sin with sex you sin against your own soul. Its deeply different. It just isn't possible to masterbate more than once or two without lusting after somebody. The mental desires (degrading the value of a woman) will always rear its ugly head.

SEXUALITY: In-Between
GENDER: Male
TITLE: danny

Before I got married I slowed down a bit, thinking it was substituting for a normal relationship. I have never stopped masturbating. It's too much fun, and with the regular sex I have with my wife I am totally sexually satisfied. I have never had any medical issues with masturbation. I have had a sore penis from time to time, but nothing requiring medical treatment.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Tool

I once tried to quit or at least not do it for a while because I thought I was doing it to much. After about a week I was about out of my mind with hornyness. I finally jerked off after I saw this really hot chick at the beach. I couldnt resist. Damn, it was the best orgasm I've ever had. I shot my cum to the other side of the room! I've tried to do it again, but I always do it after about 4 days

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: j-masturbator

I agree with both Pharell and Manju......I admit i do jerk off from time to time, but I do feel guilty after I do it, it may be because it's a sin, but it may be from trying to keep it from my family all of those years.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Stan

I had an eary puberty. At 11 could spurt cum. I slept with my dad and he told me to try to cut down on jacking off. I tried for a day but it was no go. I asked him if he ever cut down. He laughed and said yeah, but he failed too. So many a nite we both would be jacking off in bed. We had paper towels to put our semen in. I would masturbate him once in awhile and he would do me, but I went off real quick when he did it. I sure enjoyed feeling his body and prick and making him have a great orgasm. A super 7 1/2 inches. I could have masturbated him all nite. He was only 32 aand could spurt cum like a champ. Great bonding experience.

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: smallpaul

Why would I want to stop or cut down! It's fun, it's free, and it's always available.Anyway, as I'm 20% smaller than average, I think I should do it 20% more often, to compensate.

SEXUALITY: Celibate
GENDER: Male
TITLE: gForce

I'm 34, and I've been masturbating regularly since I was 12. Once or twice growing up, I thought about quitting, but I quickly learned I couldn't hold off for more than a day or two before I'd be sitting in the bathroom again or on the edge of the bed stroking away as fast and as hard as I could! The orgasms were explosive and like everyone else, I was completely hooked. Later on in my twenties, my job demanded a great deal of my time for a while, and I could only jack off about once a week or so. I ended up getting a prostate infection that took nearly a year to get over. My doctor actually told me I needed to ejaculate as much as possible to keep my prostate healthy, and so I've made it a point to jack off at least once a day ever since. I enjoy it tremendously and have no intentions of ever quitting or cutting back again. Use it or lose it!

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER:
TITLE: jock man

I tired to giv it up for lent a few years ago. i didnt make it all 40 days, i went about 30. it was rough. I was aching to let loose. then i finally did. I met this really feminist/dominant girl at college who thought guys were weak...and long story short... i got laid that night and went all night with her.... her was surprised.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Jackin Off Whenever I Can

Why In the world I ever try something so Out of question? If I tried anything other than what I am now doing it would be to try to increase masterbation. But I really don't know how I would function on any less sleep and without sleep I would not be able to work and without work I would not be able to buy KY jelly and with out ky I would not be able to jack as often so you can see why I don't try to increase the number of times I do MASTERBATE........

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Female
TITLE: Rosemary

I stopped masturbating when I was a teen because I was caught and punished. I have tried, and largely succeeded in not doing it as an adult because I know I shouldn't and because my orgasms are a reward from my husband. I earn them by being good at pleasuring him.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Addicted

Yes I have tried but i could only last for three days without touching my dick. I then masturbate and fill the place with cum . I have been masturbating for eight years, since i was 10 . I want to stop this practice because i am overmasturbating ( three times a day every single day) and i spend a lot of energy feeling tired and bored afterwards. I search for pornography every day and that's the reason i cannot stop it. Even if i cannot access a pc i am fantasizing about images i have already seen and wank all over the place. Am seriously addicted to it that's for sure.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Aaron

I can tell you with with certainty. I stopped and in no time I developed an enlarged prostate gland. (That's the gland the doctor checks with a gloved finger as you get older. It is no big deal lasts 15 seconds and could save your life including your sex life) The urologist told me never stop for long periods of time especially like after my wife died and I got depressed and lost desire. I have read some of these reasons on this board to stop and I can't believe in year 2005 that young people still feel guilty about something as natural as eating, and sleeping, playing sports, enjoying life. Masturbating does not make you weak. Trying not to masturbate results in senseless needless frustration and those emotions just INCREASE your desire. There is NOTHING, I repeat NOTHING to be guilty about enjoying your natural beautiful self. Look at what makes you feel guilty and ask yourself can I learn to decide for MYSELF? Question authority. Ancient myths still seem to linger even in the 21st century!

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Stopping is costly!

My urologist also told me don't stop for long periods of time. Why would any boy want to throw away one of greatest feelings in life? You'll end up in a shrink's office.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: raja

I started to masturbate since i was 10 year old .I at times had done this 10 to 5 times daily.Now that I am 20 i have tried to cut it and have succeded to cut it to once in a month.It has destroyed my eye sight,my brain power and my body power.Can any one help me now .

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Raja

I started to masturbate since i was 10 year old .I at times had done this 10 to 5 times daily.Now that I am 20 i have tried to cut it and have succeded to cut it to once in a month.It has destroyed my eye sight,my brain power and my body power.Can any one help me now . Undercoverdood at yahoo chat please help

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: ME

I had quit masturbating for six months when I went to prison. I had cell mates that still masturbated, which drove me crazy I even watched my one cell mate when he thought I was asleep. I really couldn't msaturbate in a place like that where you really didn't have a lot of privacy. After I got home I had a day when I didn't do it, but the day afterward I had one of the most intense masturbation sessions I ever had. It lasted a long time but I was so full of emotion I thought I was going to explode. When I felt the semen start flowing inside me and I came it was thick, yellow and sticky. My testicles hurt as well as my insides. Word of advice, if you don't have to stop---don't.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER:
TITLE: phoenix

Every once in a while I don't do it for a week or too. I do this so that I can have an orgasm like the first time again. It's better when you relieve a lot of pressure instead of just a little.

SEXUALITY: Celibate
GENDER: Male
TITLE: John McMadden Burger Thruppeny Jigbits

Hello my dear fellow spunkeroids. I have quit for approximatley three weeks now. I am slowly going insane. Religion even says that a man is not supposed to go without sex. (My religion does...) I decided to quit because i though that if a monk in a monestary can do without it and establish a worldwide.... what am i talking about... this is cutting into my valuable wank time.... Just kidding - I will however inform you all that you can stop. Those who claim that it is good for you are chatting rubbish. All it needs is time for you body to adjust and recover from the addiction and dependancy it has formed to the hormone which is continously being released into your blood stream every time you pull on your pipework. The guy whose gland swelled up - probably didn't wash enough. The swelling usually comes about from an infection from bacteria. Silly wanker... Don't ever feel guilty about it. Yes. But don't stop trying to quit. Otherwise you will be less emotionally complete to have the courage to approach the opposite sex at a younger more tender age. You think about it. Would you prefer banging a beauty from the age of fourteen onwards or tuggin' your tow rope till your thrity-something staring at a digitised image...? Its your choice. We have all been there guys. We all feel tired and lazy after cranking the loin... Is it really worth it? We live on an amazing planet with a variety of things that we could be doing. I pray that you too will be inspired to give a it try. I am telling you - you can do it!!!! The darker picture of all of this is that the companies who profit from your weakness are just getting richer and richer... The total amount spent on porn came to around $4.2 Billion dollars in 2004. Think where just one billion dollars could have gone... schools, water treatment facilities, helping the unfortunate. Does it not make you feel even more bad now when you think about it - that you are in fact contributing to a global industry which is not benefitting anyone, except men like hugh hefner? Forget feeling bad about playing with 'peter' in your pants, bashing the bishops will not get rid of the other one eyed monster in this world - greed. Believe me it does all tie in. Anyway - i think that i have rambled on long enough about this. Jerk if you must. But not at porn. And get out more. (Don't forget to wash your hands!!!!). You never know - you can always meet someone who will do it for you!!! May God guide all of you away from Grinding your Gonads.... Yours Truly - Aaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrggggghhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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TITLE: Anonymous

I gave up masturbating because a street preacher told me it wasn't right. It lasted about a week and I was an emotional wreck. I was 18. I told my 35 yr old neighbor about it and he said that wasn't true. So we jacked off each other. It was a great relief and an awesome feeling to jack off again. It was also the first time I ever had a mutual jack off, and I'm going to continue to mutually jack off with him and other guys if I can.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Hole

I wank every day. I have been doing it snice I was 11, that is 43 years ago. Wanking is normal. When my boy was 11 I let him have access to soft porn to wank to every day, he liked cum shots just like his Dad, at 26 he still sends me email pictures he has wanked to, so I can get off on them also. He is married, normal and has a family. I also still screw my wife of 30 years at least 3 times a month. Keep cuming its fun and relaxes you.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Me

My Dad showed me how to jerk off when I turned 13. I did it before that because I had seen him and my brother do it a number of times. I jerked off at least once a day to as many as five times a day when I was in high school. I rode in a car to school with two guys and two girls. Every time I sat next to the girl in the back seat I got hard and could hardly wait to get home so I could get myself off. Several times I came in my jeans during the ride home and was so embarrassed I put my school books over the wet spot. After a few months one of the girls would rub my throbbing boner under my jeans and I would get off in no time. How I loved those rides home. When I got into my house I took my jeans off to wash them, went to my bedroom and got off again! As the school year progressed it got to the point that where she actually took my cock out of my pants and gave me a blow job in front of everyone in the car! How I loved those rides home!!!

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Kent

I've never felt any reason to do so. I enjoy it. Masturbating helps me stay within my marriage bond, even when my wife and I have been unable to have sex for over a year. It doesn't hurt anything or anyone else (or me), so why not?

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Paul

When I first started at 14, I thought something was wrong with me. I tried to stop and would last about 4 days before jacking off again. Now after thirty years, I don't care and do it when ever I want. Sometimes I deny myself and drive myself crazy seeing women, both strangers and people I know.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Anonymous

Being a somewhat socially inactive computer introvert all my left, not at all religious by the way, I never masterbated once until I was 28 years old on advice of my psychologist as a method to alleviate pent up sexual need. The orgasm was great and all, but it was opening Pandora's box. I think it sort of tricks the libido into thinking I'm getting some, so it produces testosterone at a higher degree than it used to. Quitting is not easy, especially as a college kid who attends class with all these cute co-eds. (I'm still technically a virgin.) Anywho, I've made peace with masterbation somewhat, but I like to exercise restraint just for the purpose of making sure I won't let the libido get the best of me in an inappropriate situation. To these ends, I tend to go without as long as I feel is comfortable, usually 2 or 3 days, sometimes longer, sometimes less. I think that fantasizing about more appropriate stimulai probably helps to avoid triggering sexual thoughts in inappropriate context, which is my primary goal, but I haven't mastered that yet.

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: JohnR

YES, I did a course on stopping masturbation and I managed to stop for 30 days which I felt was quite a while. I must have stopped for a longer period than that but can't say for sure and that was while in the service, but I realy doubt iit was for four years...... I have now come to the realisation, so what I get horny, I masturbate and/or have intercourse, I have read where it's good for our prostates to ejackulate on a regular basis, that make me happy now I have an excuse.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Jonathan

i havent masturbated in 5 years. i am 18 and you can do it. My faith helped me and i also didnt want to be ruled by my body. you can do it and it is good for you!

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Geo

Why ever would I want to cut down. It is one of life's pleasures and one which affects no-one else. Wank as much as you want is my philosophy. The longest I have been without cumming is about 2 weeks when I just could not get clear of people. Boy did I want it after that time.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER:
TITLE: Bugboy

I was addicted to it for a few years and then I cut down on how much I did it. Then just last week I quite mastrobating for a week and when I mastrobated I came all over in my room luckily it was at night and even luckier yet I caught it all on tape.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: BBR

I tried to quit for 2 weeks. It was so damn hard! After 2 weeks i pulled off my pants and started rubbing my penis again. I still with I could quit. I hate doing it, but I can't help it. I masturbate about 5 times a week. And also, whenever I mastubate, I don't get sperm, I get this sticky crap that looks like water or something. What is this?

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Briggs

Me and my two friends had a competitions to see who could go the longest without jacking off. I almost made it to two weeks and then my friend lost the bet so I got to go at it after he told me about it. I almost went crazy (not literally) and I almost lost twice.

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Billy

I had no sex education except what I learned from friends, thus had no concept about whther masturbation was good or evil. Since it involved manipulating the sex organ, I gradually decided I should stop doing it. After all, we were taught to keep that "thing" covered. We were told not to touch or scratch down there in public. And the sex organs were called "privates." I was 14 when I made my decision to stop. (I had been masturbating since I was 12.) I was getting off easily 3 times a day then at 14. After two days as a "celbate", I could stand it no longer and at night began vigorously humping the mattress. I orgasmed and expelled an unusal amount of semen--and spent a long time trying to get it cleaned up! When I was 16, I caught my Dad masturbating. That changed everything: if it was OK for a father to masturbate, It was OK for me. The guilt was over.

SEXUALITY: Homosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: This Guy

From time to time I have so it would be more intense when I started back (doesn't work). Once I did becase I was "on vacation" from sexuality for awhile. It didn't really take any willpower or anything.

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TITLE: Tag

---the only time I felt it necessary to cut down on it was when I got so hung up on the feeling that I rubbed myself raw. Just like anything else in this world, don't turn molehills into mountains.

SEXUALITY: Metrosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: George

Yes i'm always trying, because everytime i do it i feel guilty and the next day i don't have enough energy, in my case i workout a lot, and it is not good for me, it leaves me without energy and feeling, guilty. I'm vegan and i try to do things that make me healthy so masturbating isn't making me a better and healthier person in any aspect; not physical, not mental(i´m almost always thinking about sex), and certainly not in the spiritual aspect either, I don´t feel the spiritual energy, i don´t feel inteligent or wise when i masturbate and it's against my beliefs (i'm buddhist) so it's not a wise thing to masturbate. Have i tried to quit? Yes and i was able to do it for two or three months over a year ago but i had a girlfriend. How did i do it? It was a "new year promise" and it worked very well for me, until i ended my relationship... that was when i started masturbating again. Everytime i do it i say to miself "this is the last time" and i just jerk off a few minutes ago...that´s why i'm looking for info about the issue cause i need to stop. I think i may be able to stop if a find a girlfriend again but i would like to do it on my own without a woman, that way when i find a woman i will know that i didn't found her because of that, i will like to know that i'm with her because i wanted to be with someone.

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: bigboy

I'm going on a 7 day fast from wanking this week. i cant stand it my mind is going every which way. i am staying strong but if never been so horney in my life. i started it last night and this is night two and im already going crazy. im going tto enjoy the session im going to have in 5 days. i got this idea from a freind that said her was on vacation and couldnt do it b/c he was sharing a room with his family. a week adn a 1/2 later her wanked and exploded. he said it was great. so im now trying it. wats harder is its summer and i have a lot of oppertunities and time to do it. ive been materbating for 2 a day (really at night) and this fast is killing me. mabye it wil make it that much better. here is a hint if your going to do it dont look at porn it doesnt help that's what drove to this point. i speeds it up about 500% and thats not good for your welbeing

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: JF

The only time I ever seriously tried to cut down was during my adolescent years. I wasn't entirely sure, but I had a vague idea that masturbating was something I probably shouldn't do. Still, I did masturbate almost every day, and sometimes more than once a day. My biggest effort was to try to refrain on Sundays. Sometimes this worked out OK, but other times I just couldn't get to sleep. On these occasions I would end up masturbating just so my erection would fade and I could get to sleep. Other than that, there have only been a few brief periods when my work and life were so busy that I just didn't have much time or energy, and masturbating just didn't come into my mind very much. Even when it did, sometimes I was too tired to do much about it. These periods usually lasted only from about 10 days to a couple of weeks.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Punished

I found myself struggling with the subject not because of guilt but because an urge to quit or something horrible would happen. One day when facing a horrible trial in my life I found myself in the backroom starring at pornography on the computer, tempted. I heard a voice in my head not to do it that I would be punished. At that moment I stepped away to fight the urge . My wife was doing laundry and suddenly spoke to me, not knowing what I had just informed you of. She Said. Tell me everything is going to be allright, tell me that you wont be taken away from me Referring to a cirrcumstance of legalities that could tear us apart. I told her that I would not be taken away and came back to the computer to write this letter. Wish me luck in my attempt to resiest this sinful urge.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: hellow

im 31 and still trying to fight masterbation. I started when I was like 16 or so. I masterbated 3-5 times a week in all my twenties. I've tried to stay off masterbation twice, both times lasted about 1 month and a half. I am now 31 and feel it takes longer for me to get horny now. I masterbate about 1-2 times a week now. I am single and a virgin, pretty pathetic for a 31 year old. I think masterbation is the cause. Sometimes when I don't masterbate I feel more brave around women. I think that If I did'nt masterbate I'd probably would have a girlfriend now or be married. but masterbation fullfills the desire to have a girlfriend but I wish I had a wife and kids!!! I have to stop masterbation or else I'm never going to get married. Masterbation could ruin your life like mine! I'm going to seriously stop masterbating and find me a girlfriend!!!

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: NORSKI

I am 54 and pull off every day. I tried quitting for 2 weeks. I got tense and and didn't sleep as well. I never that my wife knew I masturbated to hardcore porn every day, she is very christian and uptight about sex. After about 12 days I came home from work and there was a note on the computer, it said [Thank-you for trying to stop masturbating, but it didn't work, I see you need your porn and to masturbate every day, have your fun during to week, but, save some for me on the week ends.] Well I NEEDED OFF BAD,it was really intense, when she got home she just smiled. So I am back to every day at 5 pm.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Andy

sometimes i feel guilty about doing it but than i see my big hard dick and i remember how good it feels so i just go at it! I dont see the point in cutting down think of it as a reward to yourself for doing somethin great!

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Bobby

I've read storys about explosive orgasms by people who stopped wanking it for a while. So I tried going 10 days...I made it, and it was amazing. It was hard.. literaly! I woke up every morning with a boner....no big deal.. but as the days past, they would get harder, and they would last longer. Plus I honestly could feel myself getting a little thicker in diameter. When the 10 days were over, and my girlfriend was back from her trip, that's when I decided to let it go. BUT!, my gf said I couldn't orgasm inside her! She was afraid I would poke to deep at the "right moment". Anyway, the deal was to pull out. We were in the missionary, and then all of a sudden....BANG!!!!!! WOW!..it felt so good! And yes, there was the biggest mess to clean up....on her belly. Hmmmm That was about a year. I think I might try it again!

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: ben

I used to masturate, and I liked it, but as a christian I knew it was wrong, but I soon found out that I was addicted to it, so it went on for a couple years, I found this site www.settingcaptivesfree.com -  its for christians, And so far its the most amazing thing in my life!, I been free for some time, and let me tell you, It changes at how your look at girls, it changes your life for the better, although its really tough, it is so worth it, get the Living water instead water that keeps you thirsting.

SEXUALITY: Undecided
GENDER: Male
TITLE: BLA BLA

hi, i have been masturbating for about 2 years im 14 and i started mastrubating 2 times a day thrue ou tthe age of 13 and some in my 14. im about to go get a phisicle from the doctor ad im scared that if he can tell that i have been mastrubating to much.I need to stop

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Wetdreamer

Yes I stopped several years ago for Religious reasons. Then I started getting wet dreams instead. I get several a year. They feel great, and with all that I get, they should keep my prostrate just as healthy as masturbating would. I've never had a prostrae exam, but it would be interesting to find out how heathy it actually is, with all of my wet dreams.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Bob

I love this question! Yes, I've tried it a couple times in my life and the most I went without jacking off was six whole days. I felt like I was going to burst if I didn't unload and it didn't take much coaxing to make it unload. Bob

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Mark

I tried to stop a few times. Longest time I lasted was about a month. Had some guilt issues. Now my wife knows about it and doesn't mind as long I keep her satisfied. Don't plan on ever stopping again. It's too good.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Female
TITLE: sami

 i tryed to stop but when a fit lad walks passed i have to leg it to the nearest toilets and ease my hand into my wet pussy and so in stead of giving up i carryed on but find that i do it more now lol

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: J.A.

I've been jacking-off for over 45 years,sometimes much more than others. I enjoy the sensation of it swelling as it nears ejaculation and try to hold that rock hard feeling as long as possible. Usually able to curl my toes with every intense white shooting stream of cum I produce. I look years younger than many men my age, so maybe there's some hidden youth secret behind jacking off regularly!

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Alvin

I always felt guilty about masturbating, I thought I must be weird or something. I would wander into the woods and take off all of my clothes . I would walk around a field with my penis totally erect, brushing against the brush. I was pretty sure that nobody was around and I remember sticking my bum into a cool stream of brookwater. One time a horsefly landed on my erect penis. I was so excited by being "stung" on my penis that I immediately jacked off onto a stone and watched as ants (etc) fed on my semen.

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: fred

I am in my 50's and have been enjoying myself since I was 11 on a daily basis. When I was with a partner I would reschedule it so as not to interfere with our nightly sex routine. Everything worked well.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: John

I have recently decided to stop masterbating, it has been a week since. F.Y.I before this last week I was a "heavy" masterbator. I don't feel that masterbation is wrong for you. Also, I am not here to preach about it being wrong or right. Anyways, I am going to tell you why I decided to stop. About a week ago, I was sleeping in a church for 3 days. The week prior to these 3 days I had been masterbating. During the 3 days I was staying at the church, I knew I couldn't masterbate. On the fist day I thought to myself "Ok, 3 day no problem..When I get home I can go back to masterbating." Heres the thing. During my stay I noticed that I could not stop thinking of sexual thoughts. I was even having "naughty" thoughts of the women that walked into the church, thought of wanting to do things that I watched in pornographic movies. I wanted to stop, but I juss couldn't. I realized that my mind is stuck on "SEX" and that I lost the ablity to control myself. It appeared to me that sex and self pleasure had become a silent addiction to me. I fell that it is unhealthy of me not to be able to control my thoughts. The excessive viewing of pornography and self pleasure had molded my thought patterns. Till this day I have urges to masterbate and view pornography. This is the reason for the apathy. To regain the abilty to control myself. As the days go by, I can see my ablity to control myself become better. Thank you for reading my posting.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: David

I jerk off at least twice a day. There have been times when I have held off, but then I end up going to a "massage therapist", After spending fifty bucks , I end up spraying semen all over my belly and once again decide to not cum for a while. Easily said while a hot towel is being administerted to my penis. The masseuse gently wipes my penis and I promise myself ok , never again. Then it gets hard again.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Female
TITLE: Deen

I've tried many times to stop because I feel it's not neesary in my life. I could be doing something else rather than being in masterbating. I mean to me there seems to be little point and that's one of the reaason I have been trying to stop for long periods of time.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: titlewinks

When i was a kid i thought i was the only one who masterbated so i tried to stop........ I stopped for 2 days but it was hard and when i decided to masterbate again prob the best time ive jerked off!!! it looked like i just came outa the shower

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER:
TITLE: JJ

The longest I could go was like 6.5 days. I couldnt stand it anymore and I came so fast and like all over. It was so much more enjoyable. I hate trying to quit during school because I get woodys a lot.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Anonymous

I started keeping a chart of my activity - one for solo outings and one where my wife is involved. Sex with my wife is an irregular thing - and is usually the same with only minor variations. Twice a month could be seen as excessive. Masturbation for me has always been a part of my life - going back to the age of 10 (now 40). From time to time, I've tried to cut back from an average of 4 times a week. When I was younger it was more often. But in the past 2 1/2 years, the longest I've ever gone without wanking or sex with my wife is 7 days. When it's been this long for me, I find I have VERY sexual dreams and end up with a wet dream.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER:
TITLE: Joebob

I masturbate every day- I have never considered cutting down- I look forware to every opportunity to masturbate, only a fool would seek cutting back. I feel good about my sexuality and have no shame for masturbating.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: MastaWanka

I have tried many times to stop Masturbating but I cant seem to bring my self around to actually trying with everything I have, because I get horney just thinking about girls and there's no way to ignore it or make it go away for me with out wanking. So i figure w/e if it makes me feel good and it gets rid of embarrasing boner then its all good.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Tom

I tried to cut down or quit masturbating, but the desire was more than I could stand and I started to masturbate again and I felt better physically and psycologically. I told my priest that I ejaculated 3 times a week for prostate health on the advise of my Doctor (I am over 50 and single) and if it was a sin and he said NO! Not many guys or gals confess it any more.

SEXUALITY: Undecided
GENDER:
TITLE: loveasix

never...and want to do it more often

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER:
TITLE: Dave

My wife and I have not tried to cut down on our masturbation.

SEXUALITY: In-Between
GENDER:
TITLE: paul

No,no ,No---- When some thing is good why stop

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: kurt

No, I have never tried to quit and don't think there is anything wrong with mastrubation at all. I think it is a very healthy thing.

SEXUALITY: In-Between
GENDER: Male
TITLE: B.D wow

Never The only thing better then masturbating my self is having some one else masturbating me where I can just lay there and watch then and feel them stroking my cock and when I come the exspesion on their face.I have never felt bad about about mastrubation.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Late Night shift shelf stacker

I have a hot girlfriend Chloe whos 19 and whos mad cos Im 62. Ive been masturbating for over 45 years. I _____ other women sometimes as Chloes a student in London and I live in Newcastle but I also masturbate on a regular basis. Im in bed most of the day and my daughters look after me and read the Sun. I find pork pies make me yearn for a wank even more and so I eat at least three a day.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: kurt

Hey it's me again. I thought a lot about this page and decided I should quit for a while just to see what it was like. Today is my 7th day straight without ejaculation. (I decided on a 1 week break.) I touched myself a lot and tested myself by watching porn, but somehow I prevented myself from ejaculation. I am so incredibly horny today and I watched lots of porn all morning and almost came. But tonight at midnight I am going to have a party for one and finally let it rip! Midnight cannot come fast enough for me. Before this my penis felt worn out because I mastrubated so much, so this fresh start will be very nice. I will probably do this once every few months just because it feels like recharging.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: none

Stop masturbating, i did and its the most uplifting feeling ive ever had. masturbation is an addition and people become slaves to it. see it for what it really is and not how you want to see it.

SEXUALITY: Gay
GENDER:
TITLE: UnKnown

Yes, I have tied to quit before. For some reason, after I masterbate I get small headaches. But nothing serious. But my desire to masterbate has never ended. I think that its kind of like smokeing. Its addicting. Once you get hooked, you dont want to stop. I also belive that the reason why I get headaches is because it takes awhile for me to finally blow my load, and when I masterbate, I am in the shower. I think the heat is to much for me. More than likly, I will keep on masterbating until I find a sex partner.

SEXUALITY: In-Between
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Bud

Yes I did cut down and would wait 10 days to masturbate then it was 7 days then 10 again then back to where I am now

SEXUALITY: Monosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Bob

I'm a chronic penis masturbator. I tried to stop for a week last summer. After 2 days I got a throbbing boner in the shower, and the shampoo startd looking mighty good. I could not stop myself from lubing up. The second I touched my cock I was flying. I thought I had it under control but my cock was like yearning to be _____ by my hand, it got too intense and i came in like 2 minutes and shot about 15 times! It took about a good five minutes to 'come down'. Thats the longest I have gone without in 13 years of penis addicktion, now I am back to normal, which is a 4 hour session daily!

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: interested

When I was younger and masturbating 2- 6 hours a day I tried to cut down as I thought it was too much. I would limit it to two hours a day (with exceptions for weekends). The result was that I got depressed, got headaches, and my mood was terrible. This would go on for three or four weeks until I couldn't stand it anymore. Then my penis would take over and I would masturbate every chance I got until it calmed down, which usually took a couple of weeks. For a long time I never tried to cut down, although I find that occasionally I have to for one reason another, but never for more than a week or two. I can live with that, although I find that the more I have my penis out the more I enjoy life. This week I have it out about 10-12 hours a day and masturbate it about half that time. If I feel to masturbate less I will, and if I feel to do more I will.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: sound as

no absolutley not i would never cut down or quit wanking it is what makes me what i am and i would never want to change

SEXUALITY: Homosexual
GENDER:
TITLE: Geo

Definitely not. When i was younger I sometimes used to try to stop for a week but i never succeded and really never want ed to cut down. I wank when I feel like it which is pretty often, usually every day and more at weekends.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Gray

Yes I tried to quit many times due to my parents treatment to me when I got caught. I always had to have masturbation from the first time I did it. So I thing about a year was as long as I ever went with out doing it.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Ken

No one ever told me that masturbation was wrong, yet somehow in my teen years I did pick up the belief that it was a "bad habit." So I tried to quit a couple of times. It was never successful; I think the longest I ever went was a week. Ultimaely, I just wasn't that dogmatic about quitting. If I'd cared more I would have lasted longer, but deep down I don't think I've ever really believed that masturbation was harmful.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Old Shelf stacker

As long as there's page 3 and Cheryl Tweedy I will always wank - I love it. Even though I have a lovely girlfriend with tits to die for. I imagine _____ Cheryl and my Chloe together. Oh and throw in Emma Watson who plays Hermione.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: 30401

oF COURSE I'VE TRIED TO QUIT MASTURBATION CAUSE AFTER WHILE YOU SORTA GET SICK AND TRIED OF IT AND IT MAKES YOU DESPERATE.

SEXUALITY: Virgin
GENDER: Male
TITLE: JJ

yeah God dosent want us to hurt our bodies. You guys have to know there is 2 diffrent types of masterbations 1 is with porn and 2nd is just purely masterbation without porn. im 14 this year and evey time i tried to stop my masterbation but theres always a tingle in my body wanting to watch and masterbate. although all males masterbate but there are periods and limits i tried to set my self limits 99% of males masterbate. I just want you to know Cut masterbate not just like that its not a 3 sec thing its a commitment and you have to be slow take it slow who says it has to be fast. and when you suceed you'll feel great!!!!!!!

SEXUALITY: Metrosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Daniel

Nope, never have never will. Mastrubation is an essential part of livelihood, there's nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself in the slightest. You should never feel that self-pleasuring is wrong, it's human nature to do so. Just think back to when you were a baby, or recall watching a child play with themselves.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: coolie

i have not tried to quit because i see nothing wrong with it. god is no reason not to do something no one should be ashamed of, if anything you should be proud of it. in a perfect world everyone wouldbe proud of everything they did because having pride in your work is the first step to self-love.

SEXUALITY: Monosexual
GENDER: Other
TITLE: Ahmed Ijaz Ghottu

is tarted masturbating when i was 9 years old when i saw my gardener doing it behind our car. since then it has been a kind of hobby for me. i masturbate when i wake up, i masturbate when i go to sleep and usually i masturbate alteast three more times in between. i thought about stopping and all but i just could not help myself from touching my penis. although it isnt much but it still keeps me away from other healrhy habits my friends have. now im 20 and i still havent reached the stage where i can say i have had enough. i have no i girlfriends, no guy friends even but i am satisfied with what i have; my penis which has kind of shrunk over the years but hell ... who gives a _____ cos its only me whose ever going to handle this baby.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: The Essayist

I started masturbating right about when I turned 12. I just sort of figured it out myself, so I'm kinda curious when I've heard about other guys who were "taught" how to do it, especially by their Dad or something. My parents were really condecending of masturbation, though in private sometimes my Dad would be really encouraging (encouraging to stop) and wouldn't make me feel quite so bad for it. I'm also extremely religious, and it conflicts with the teachings of my church. But now I'm 21, and I am still addicted to it. I've been trying so hard to figure out what the real truth of the matter is, because really I just want to be happy (as in real happiness, not just instant gratification) I think that's one of the biggest problems with masturbation: it IS instant gratification, which I feel is inheirantly wrong, and a shortcut to misery, depression, sorrow. I also hate the way it messes with my mind, I feel out of control, like I'm a puppet when I wank, that I have no choice; and I HATE feeling like I have no choice. Life is supposed to be all about being able to make choices. So as a result, ever since I started, which is now 9 years ago, I have been trying to quit. Sometimes I have had more success than other times. The longest I have ever gone was 6 months, but that was also pretty early on, when I didn't have as much testosterone in my system. Within the last 2 years I have had 2 three month periods where I didn't actually ejaculate wilfully (every once in a while I'd have a wet dream) but I did still masturbate occaisionally, just not to fufillment though. About the longest that I've gone without even masturbating at all was about 2 years ago I went for about 9 weeks without anything! It was actually pretty easy at first because of the environment I was in at the time, sort of a religious boot camp experiance. It got harder though as I eventually was given more personal space and more free time, and eventually I cracked. But I'll tell you, those 9 weeks were maybe the best 9 weeks of my life, I kid you not. I don't think that was entirely because I wasn't masturbating, but maybe if I had been, it just would've been a good 9 weeks, not the best 9 weeks ever. I will always look back on that time fondly. One of my clear memories of that time however, was how amazing beautiful all the women around me suddenly seemed! I learned the real meaning to the expression "French pictures will make you go blind". Suddenly I realized just how good looking girls I had considered "normal" to be, even just from a visual standpoint. Not to mention, my capacity to appreciate a girl's personality doubled. Some hard-core wankers out there may say that it's just putting on the beer-gogles, and that it blinds you to how ugly the girls actually are, but I say that I WANT to live in a world where I think all the women are damn fine! Currently I probably wank about 3-6 times a week. I definately notice something though when I haven't masturbated in say 2 or more days: I get A LOT more confident with chicks, which works out very well. You'd be suprised how attactive you seem to the opposite sex when you have that kind of confidence. It makes me hate the fact that I masturbate so often, it makes such a difference in my "aura". I always feel slightly depressed (or more) after ejaculating. It feels sooo good, but then when I come back to reality, and realize what I've done, and how I didn't have control, and what the consequences will be; it's just short of devestating. Finally, it's really awkward to be addicted to porn since I am currently living at home, with my family. I'm the oldest kid of 5, two sisters and two brothers. My brothers really look up to me as a role model, and I want to do everything I can to prevent them from being addicted, but who knows, maybe they already are, and I don't even know it. I'm constantly in fear of being caught, and dealing with the dis-honor associated with it. (my family is somewhat atheist now, though they still carry many traditional christian values, especially my mother). This has been alot of reasons to quit. But there is one ultimately superior reason (it would seem) not to: My body makes fresh sperm every day, and it's got to go somewhere. I say that this reason seems ultimately superior because obviously it has won out over the last 9 years of my life, and from what I've noticed from the other posts on this board, just about everyone else too. So what does this mean? If our bodies are built this way, can it really be that bad morally? Are all of the things I mentioned in the preceding paragraph actually inventions of the immagination? Maybe, but I don't think so actually. I think that the following is a concise, list of legitimate arguements why masturbation is "wrong": -Instant Gratification, which world history and common wisdom have proven time and time again is always bad, this is directly linked to "Self-Control" -Degrading Women, which is not just religious dogma, it's my personal experiance, and is ultimately bad for my relationships, the community, and even global society -Proliferation of Pornography, which ruins the lives of perhaps hundreds of thousands of women world wide, by their becoming whores, adult stars, or even engaging in unwise sexual behavior on a personal level... all of which has incontrivertible bad consequences them -Time Wasting, I and We could all be doing much more "productive" things with our time, I'm sure. -Depression, whether it is a result of religious indoctrination or an active imagination or because of "real" ultimate truths, either way it's there, in my mind, and I think alot of our minds, making a final reason to avoid it. HOWEVER... I think that it is extreemly unrealistic to suppose that I would never masturbate again, just the same as it would be completely unrealistic to suppose that I will never play a violent videogame again. Even though gameplaying is a "time-waster" and puts negative images into my head and can be addictive to a certain degree or be used as an "escape" from reality... I will still play them because they are FUN, and I think I deserve to have a little bit of FUN every once in a while. I think everyone deserves that. I'm not in favor of becoming a slave to my x-box, I really do have better things to do, but I am ok with playing a little bit, in ligitimate free time I may have. I think something simmilar goes for masturbation. Now before I wrap this up, I have some almost random comment to insert, that won't fit anywhere else. Seeing how I am currently un-married and single, and a virgin (I'm *hoping* that I'll be able to wait for sex until the wedding night... Wish me luck!) I've been a little suprised at what I've heard in passing both on this board and among others... What I'm talking about is how little married people seem to have sex! I hear comments about how once or twice a month might be pushing it! Maybe I'm just clueless since I'm not married, but what's the deal? Is this normal married behavior? If you sleep next to a woman who your supposedly in love with, I would think it would be hard NOT to have sex! I realize that people have to go to work in the morning, which means that they have to go to bed at a decent time, but wouldn't you plan time to have sex together? I'm not sure if I understand that. If someone can clue me in on that one, that would be much appreciated. Well, it's high time I wrap this one up. In conclusion, I believe that masturbation done sparingly (maybe once or twice a week) can be done guilt free, while still allowing us single men to maintain some sexual sanity. I am going to work harder at not feeling guilty over it, but to realize that this is the best and the most that can be expected of me, at least for the present. I think that masturbating without pornography is better, as it will not support the abuse of women around the world, and is likely to be more intellectually stimulating (like how reading a book is "better" than watching a movie). I also think that this subject needs much wider attention in American society, so that more and better brains can be put to the topic, creating better solutions for us all. I hope that both myself, and all those who have read this have been made the better for it. Sincerely, Mak Leto, November 19th, 2005

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Jay

I started masturbating when I was 12. I'm now 22. The longest I've ever managed to go in the past decade is seven days. I've tried to give up multiple times but I've never had the willpower. However, as a 22-year-old virgin who cannot get girls, I'm so sexually frustrated and bitter that I want to remove all sexual thoughts from my life. I know I'll be happier if I can stop having sexual desires, and quitting masturbation seems the way to do this. It's not a religious thing at all, I'm an atheist and I don't consider masturbation wrong in any way. My previous tries at this have all ended in failure, but I feel confident I can do it this time. I've so far gone five days without, and there have certainly been temptations, but I'm mostly holding up okay. I know I'll break my week-long record with no problem, and then just keep on going.

SEXUALITY: In-Between
GENDER: Male
TITLE: pussyboy

I have tried to cut down on masturbatin. I read an internet site that said too much masturbation is unhealthy for men, and can weaken your ability to get erection. I am also afraid I am addicted to masturbatin. My attempt to cut back on masturbating did not work. I still masturbate about three times daily.

SEXUALITY: Undecided
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Matt

I tried to stop masturbating once when i was 12ish. In my religion class, i read in the textbook that it was a sin, so i tryed to stop. It didnt work. After some research on the internet and other things, though, i don't see why it would be a sin, and many bible scholars believed that this sprouted from a misinterpretation of a bible passage. Now, I do not think it is wrong, and I masturbate once or twice a day.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: GunshySlycat1

Yes, but only temporarily. Two reasons. 1 I wanted my orgasms to feel better and 2 because I thought it would help with my anxiety around girls... That didn't last lol.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Scott

Are you crazy! Quit masturbating? If my equipment stays in good shape throught he rest of my life, I can't imagine stopping. Why? Masturbation for me is a huge part of my life. I feel that it is a healthy endeavor that should be practiced without shame throughout one's life.

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Paul23

I do not consider anything wrong with masterbation. I like it and look forward to it most days. I certainly do not consider I am doing anything wrong even to my partner by masterbating. If my partner masterbates without me knowing that's fine. I think everyone needs some private time and my masterbation time is a real nice experience - its your time to discover your own body. If you experiment you will find that every time you come it is different. Dont feel or allow others to tell you you are doing something wrong - enjoy what you do and look forward to the next time you do it. The ability to masterbate yourself means your were meant to do it otherwise it would be a near impossible task - like sucking your little toe. Masterbation is a private thing, dont let people tell you you are being selfish by not including your wife/husband/partner - you can still make love with them - this is about you satisfying yourself. There is nothing wrong in thinking about yourself at times and private times make you a better person. You can respect the private times of others. Take your time - and get there safely!!

SEXUALITY: Heterosexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Masturbator

I started masturbating when I was 8 after being shown how by another boy. I don't recall doing it much then, though I recall being told by my mother to "stop playing with your pee-pee". When I was 11 I had an orgasm for the first time, and about a year later ejaculated for the first time. I tried to quit masturbating after every time I did it, as I was very embarrassed and ashamed about it. Also my religion told me it was wrong. My parents mainly ignored sex instruction, although they did give me a book that said it was bad to masturbate "too much". I could never quit, so gave up on that and instead tried to cut down. This continued until I was married. The problem I had was that every time I tried to cut down I would force myself not to do it for a few days, then it would explode and it seemed I had to make up for lost time. So the amount I masturbated actually kept increasing instead of decreasing. After I married I thought I would stop masturbating and have other sex instead, but although my wife and I had plenty of sex, I found I was masturbating more than ever.. That pattern continued throughout the years--masturbating more, trying to cut down and then masturbating more than ever. I finally gave up trying to cut down and decided to enjoy it as much as I wanted, thinking when I got older it would naturally diminish. Now I am 66 and have been retired for three years, and find I have my cock out all my private time. I enjoy every moment I masturbate and have no thought now to quit or come down. I do think the reason I masturbate so much now is because of all the guilt I felt about it when I was young.

SEXUALITY:
GENDER: Male
TITLE: WD

When I was an adolescent I jerked off almost every day. Two or three days without an orgasm was enough to make me crazy with need. One time, though, when I was seventeen, I went to a week-long camp. I was busy all day and at night was in a cabin with four other guys, so there was never time or privacy. At the end of the week I was in desperate need of relief.----In those days, when I was still a virgin, I made up private games to satisfy my need for sexual adventure and variety, like seeing how long I could masturbate, keeping my erection all the while, before coming. Or finding out how many times could I get hard and masturbate for a few minutes and nearly come, then let myself go soft, and then start again. (That REALLY made for an intense orgasm when I finally let go, screaming). Or fingering my anus. Or stripping in front of a mirror, trying on different clothes, assuming different positions in various stages of undress. Or going to a hidden place in the woods to get naked. And so on.----The night I came back from the week-long camp I arrived home late. My balls were bursting and my whole body was glowing. But it was late and I was tired, and I decided to wait until the next day so I could really enjoy it. Well, the next day came and my cock and balls felt heavy and thick but I realized that the past eight days were the longest I had gone without an orgasm since I had been having orgasms--more than five years, when I first got pubic hair and started thinking about girls 24-7. I wondered if I could make it another day. It became a game. I'm not going to masturbate, I thought, but that's really sexy. I thought I'd go mad, thinking constantly about my penis and the throbbing in my balls, and the glow around my ass, and my nipples and my whole damn body. It was frustrating but also fun in a masochistic way. One day turned into two. On the ninth day without an orgasm, I decided to go for two weeks. I spent those days in a delicious agony. I would hold my penis when I urinated but not otherwise touch it. It made me constantly aware of it. I'm a boy, I thought, I have a penis and it's sticking out of me and it's there inside my underwear inside my pants and it wants me to touch it and stroke it and make it hard but I won't do it. Penis, penis, penis...it kept calling to me. It would stir and start getting hard but I wouldn't help it along. I made it worse in fact by teasing myself in various ways. In the shower, for example, I took pleasure in the hot water flowing sensuously on my body. I would wash my cock and balls, but not stroke them.---On the fourteenth day it was all I could do from running to the nearest private place, pulling down my pants, and masturbating fast and furiously to orgasm. I distracted myself with other things...riding my bike, walking, watching television, reading. It was summer so I could get out and get my mind a little off my desires.---Then on the fifteenth day, I headed out to the fields near where we lived. I found a quiet, hidden place where I took my pants off and started playing with myself. My cock was so hard it almost hurt. It felt huge. It was darker in color than I'd ever seen it, a purple red hue. My whole world centered on my penis, my whole consciousness, and I thought, wow am I going to enjoy this. So I went at it. I didn't need to fantasize about girls and what in my virginal state I wanted to do to them and for them to do to me. I just lie on my back looking at the big blue sky between the treetops thinking about how long it had been and how big and hard my cock was and how good it is to be a boy and to have a penis and to be hard and to pump it in your hand and rub it back and forth and to feel an earthquake rumbling from deep inside your swollen balls and belly, quiet at first and distantly but then louder and closer until--OH MY GOD!--I'm shooting, first one big drop but another and another and another big shot of thick beautiful heavy white boy come into the air, all over my belly and arms and hand and even a few drops as far as my chin. What a come. It was epic.----I've never gone that long without an orgasm again, but I enjoy the memory. Crazy kid.

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